LpcArk said:
This isn't a question but more of a request of opinion. How do you think gravity actually works, whether with gravitons, waves, or space-time bending to physically interact with matter etc. Not just what the theory says gravity does but what you think actually causes the effect.
At present, General Relativity is the most successful theory we have, and it is typically summed up in John Wheeler's words "Matter tells space how to curve, and space tells matter how to move". We don't really even known what matter is, let alone how it curves space.
Any ideas for explanations would therefore be new theories; if someone had a good one which really worked and remained consistent with the known GR experimental results, I think we would probably get to hear about it.
I have some personal models which I use to visualise various aspects of gravity theory. For example, to visualise the relationship between "action at a distance" descriptions and "local field" descriptions, I imagine that anything containing energy emits spherical complex scalar waves expanding at c with the frequency associated with that energy (which is vaguely related to the sort of things that are assumed to happen in quantum theory). In that case, the divergence of the gradient (the Laplacian) of the total phase of that combined wave at any point is a scalar quantity which is equal to the sum of the energy of each source divided by its distance. Multiplied by G/c^2, that sum gives the total Newtonian gravitational potential, and the gradient of that potential is then the Newtonian field.
Although I like to use that sort of model to help understand how things might work, I can also usually find ways in which the model does not work, or find completely different models for the same theory. This doesn't mean I need to throw the model away, but does mean I have to be cautious about its limitations, just as when using Newtonian theory as an approximation to GR.