It's very hard to communicate Big Bang ideas at the high school level without basically telling "lies to children." It's a difficult choice, when you know what you are saying isn't really true, but you judge it close enough to be all they can really understand! I'd say if a student asks you a question as nuanced as the one you asked, you shouldn't worry about answering it, just praise them for drawing the connections between Doppler shifts and cosmological shifts and say that these are all issues of current research and the answer might be different in the next theory that comes along! That might encourage them to be curious and realize that not all questions can be answered as easily as they can be asked. Just make sure that they understand if everything expanded equally, it would be like no expansion at all, so bound systems cannot expand with the rest of the universe or we wouldn't call it expansion.