Orodruin said:
But this is certainly true also in Newtonian mechanics. Those forces were never a third law pair. The third law pairs would be the internal forces at any given point on the rope. These act at the same point in space-time and are equal and opposite.
I don't see why you say this. It's pretty common in freshman physics to have masses suspended by (lightweight) ropes, and the tension at both ends of the rope is constant.
If we have to get into the mathematical details, a lot of the appeal of the simplicity of the argument to the layperson is lost. But I suppose it's worth exploring to make sure there isn't some error.
I believe the formal non-relativistic version of what I'm saying would involve the conservation form of the cauchy momentum equation
https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Cauchy_momentum_equation&oldid=667601617
j = \rho u \quad F = \rho u \times u + \sigma \quad s = \rho g
\frac{\partial j}{\partial t} + \nabla \cdot F = \rho g
In our application, the velocity u is zero which implies that the momentum density j is zero, and the body forces ##\rho g## are presumed negligible because we've assumed that the rope is "lightweight" so its own weight doesn't contribute to the stress. These are the same assumptions as in freshman physics, we don't account for the ropes own weight, we assume it's negligible. Then we can write
##\nabla \cdot \sigma = 0##
the vanishing of the divergence of the classical stress-energy tensor. If we assume a cartesian basis and a corresponding constant-width rope, then the stress-energy tensor in the rope will be
##\left( \begin{array}{ccc}T & 0 & 0 \\0 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 0 \end{array} \right)##
i.e. there will be tension along it's length and no stresses in the other directions. Then the vanishing of the divergence is just ##\frac{\partial T}{\partial x} = 0##, which imples the tension in the rope is constant, i.e. it does not depend on length.
The relativistic version is similar in concepet, but different in details. The important difference is we need to take into account the covariant derivative of T. A short summary would be that we replace ##\sigma## with the stress-energy tensor T, and the continuity equation with ##\nabla_a T^{ab}=0##. Rather than attempt to muddle through the relativistic version, I'll refer you to Wald , "General Relativity", pg 288
However, if we choose to calculate the forces which must be applied by a distant observer at infinity (i.e by means of a long string), we find that this force differert from the local force by a factor of V.
Rather than quote the details, I'll just explain that V here is the redshift factor, so that ##V^2 = -\xi^a \xi_a##, the length of a timelike Killing vector, which I would describe in lay language as the time dilation factor, though the later term is coordinate dependent and the Killing vector form isn't.
A much shorter but non-rigorous and potentially argumentative way of saying the same thing is that the conservation of momentum means that a certain amount of it flows through the rope in one coordinate second, and that because of gravitational time dilation, the conservation of this flow of momentum means that the rate of flow with respect to proper time, which is what you can actually measure with a force gauge, varies.
In the Newtonian case, the conservation of the flow of momentum and the static nature of the suspended object means that the flow of momentum, i.e. the force, is constant along the length of the rope.
Constancy of flow of mometum with time was assumed in the Newtonian case, in the GR case we instead talk about a stationary metric and it's associated Killing vector.