The trick with tuples is that the position of the number in sequence has a meaning ... like the number 157 is a 3-tuple because the positions code hundreds, tens, and ones from left to right. The order has to be important ... like 1st, 2nd, 3rd ... i.e. a set of polygons could be described by a tuple where the nth entry in the list is the number of polygons with n sides in the set. If I draw the polygons from the set one at a time, then the sequence of polygons could be a tuple.
Ordered pairs are a list of 2-tuples in the order that they are to be drawn on a graph ... (x_i,y_i) if there are a finite number of them [edit: I am corrected, you cannot have an infinity-tuple] the position of the number in the list refers to a component of position on a graph.
In the end you define a mathematical object by it's list of properties ...
Distinguish from a set by:
1. ##(1,2,3)\neq (3,2,1)## while ##\{1,2,3\} = \{3,2,1\}##
2. Multiple entries are allowed: ##(1,1,3)## would be a tuple from set ##\{1,3\}##
3. Must have a finite number of elements.
So for the set of aircraft at an airport: organize by, say, weight, then that is just a sorted list. But if you have, say, 10 gates at the airport, then you can define a 10-tuple that stores the flight-number currently docked at each gate (0000 for empty gate, say). You could presumably define weight ranges so-many tonnes wide, and record the number of aircraft at the airport that fit in each weight range ... store that as a tuple. Similarly the top 3 heaviest aircraft would be a 3-tuple is the 1st position were heaviest etc. The names of the medal winners at an olympic event (if in a specific order each time) would be a 3-tuple like that.
It's unusual, in practise, that you actually care about the exact name of a mathematical structure like this though: you just use whatever seems appropriate at the time. Certainly not worth focussing on... this is probably the most I've used the word in a decade. The time the name becomes important is when you want to use someone elses result for a general property - in that case you realize the property and look up the name of the theorem that applies. (The other time is in an exam and you are specifically asked...) Thus: this is where I found out that I'm wrong ;)