Michael Price said:
The reason for the distinction between the first and second kind may be that neither are tensors. If they were tensors then the difference would be the trivial lowering of an index, and we would regard them as manifestations of the same tensor. But they are not tensors, so we have to be careful and treat them separately. The first kind is useful for defining the Riemann curvature, second is useful for torsion and contorsion.
If I am not wrong, and please correct this if it is not right, one set of Christoffel symbols describes the covariant derivative on the tangent spaces, the other describes the induced covariant derivative on the dual tangent spaces.
In this special case of a metric compatible affine connection, the difference in the Christoffel symbols seems somewhat trivial. But the underlying idea that there are two different connections on two different vector bundles is not.
From this point of view, one starts with the general definition of covariant derivative and then specializes to the case of a metric compatible connection.
For any affine connection, metric compatible or not, the covariant derivative extends to all tensors. The covariant derivative ##∇_{X}ω## of the 1 form ##ω## with respect to the tangent vector field ##X## is defined by the rule
##(∇_{X}ω)(Y)=X⋅ω(Y) -ω(∇_{X}Y)##
for any vector field ##Y##
In this formula ##X⋅ω(Y)## is the ordinary derivative of the function ##ω(Y)## with respect to the vector field ##X##.
If there is a metric ##<,>## then for any vector field ##Z## the inner product of vector fields with Z is a 1 form and the above formula becomes
##(∇_{X}<Z,>)(Y)=X⋅<Z,Y> -<Z,∇_{X}Y>##
and if the covariant derivative is metric compatible the formula simplifies to
##(∇_{X}<Z,>)(Y)=<∇_{X}Z,Y>##
In words this says that the covariant derivative of the inner product with a vector field Z is the inner product with the covariant derivative of Z. Without metric compatibility this would not be true.
Using this, it is a simple calculation to express the Christoffel symbols for the induced covariant derivative on the dual tangent spaces in term of the Christoffel symbols on the tangent spaces.
For a coordinate basis ##e_{i}##
##∇_{e_{i}}e_{j} = ΣΓ_{ij}^{k}e_{k}##
and ##(∇_{ei}<e_{j},>)=<Σ_{k}Γ_{ij}^{k}e_{k},>##
so the coefficients of this 1 form with respect to the dual basis vectors ##e_{l}^{*}## are
##<Σ_{k}kΓ_{ij}^{k}e_{k},e_{l}>## or using index notation this is
##Γ_{ij}^{k}g_{kl}##