I have been dating a girl for quite a while, we are both on our 2nd year of college majoring in maths. The other day while we were talking about ourselves I mentioned my intention to go study abroad for my masters and phD. I have really good chances to do that, I have very good grades and I am already involved in some REU type programme so I think things are going well in this sense. However it hit her as she realized our relationship was in some kind of countdown. She understands my ambitions and supports me, but we suddenly realized that what we have is most certain only temporary. Then she became doubtful and doesn't know if we should continue, because long distance relationships never worked for her (she has had one), and began thinking whether it would be better if we stopped being togehter because that way it would alleviate the suffering when the time comes. I tried to tell her that we would make it through if we truly loved each other, and that we should not worry about something in 2 years time which we don't know much about yet. She accepted it and we have a normal relationship again. But now it's me. I really considered the situation and if I go for graduate school, it will be a long time and we are most certainy bound to drift apart. I want to have the best of both worlds. She is truly special for me and I think I wouldn't find anyone like her for how much I searched. What advice do you have for overcoming this eventual barrier? Is this relationship bound to fail? Can we do something in the future to save it? Or should I just seize the moment and start convincing myself that one day sooner or later it will end?