Actually I tutor people in English grammar and style and I have no problem there

(indeed, grammar and style I are things I value, and like somewhat as well)
Moonbear said:
If that's your view of the people you're tutoring, you absolutely should not be tutoring. They are paying you because they are motivated and do want to learn and are trying to not fail. If your attitude is "too bad if they fail" or "they're not going to learn anything anyway," then just give it up and let them find a tutor who has a better attitude and is willing to really help them.
Actually, they're NOT paying for the tutoring. You see, I tutor people as a part of this school program-->the school gives me a free AP test for a completed 8-hours of tutoring.
The students
don't pay ---> the school does. If the students did pay...well, then I would indeed take a more individualized approach; really, the only time I have with them is an hour per week
Oh how I wish the students were motivated!

as you say they are.
Even when I try to explain a simple concept to them, and the NOD IN AGREEMENT--->later I give them a simple problem related to the concept and they just phase out. Smiling...as if NOT KNOWING and not having skill is a good thing!
I ask one of them, do they have any problem for the material they're currently working on? Well, they say no--->yeah right. Just look at their test grades. You see, I would GLADLY tutor a motivated student. I would GLADLY and more actively participate in their education. Unfortunately, the people I tutor don't do their homework...or doing right before class starts...sometimes BS on their assignments...etc..etc.
It's almost as though they were relunctantly forced by their parents/teachers to get a tutor!
I'd wish they would be motivated! Then I could engage them with deeper understanding of the concepts...and move on beyond that blasted public HS curriculum (which is quite "watered down")!
Evo said:
These kids need patience and understanding.
If only it was that simple.
Some kids might be misunderstood, whereas others are just lazy and slack off for no apparently good reason.
Unfortunately, one of the reasons that California public schools have extremely low standards, grade inflation, and social promotion is because of that belief that "most students who under-perform are misunderstood and/or are unfairly discriminated against...etc..etc."
Which fails to acknowledge the individual's responsibility in the learning process. You would have students blaming teachers for giving bad grades when all the student does is just sit home or play videogames, or just open the book and look at the text without taking time to actually understand it.
Yes...some HS students may need understanding & patience. But by FAR not all under-performering HS students! Especially those that just sleep in class or do nothing but find a new name to call the teacher when they receive a low test grade. What most students need is a sense of individual responsibility towards the learning process.
The teacher will not "learn" you the material. The teacher can only help the student help THEMSELVES to learning the material. Many times, it comes down to a sincere individual effort
by the student to learn and succeed in the material or course content.
*Just one last quantification-->What's before HS and then during HS and beyond.
----Obviously, we cannot expect a concentrated individual effort by a 3- or 9- or 12- year old when it comes to academics. Obviously
But by the time people are in high school, they should be aware of their skills, of their knowledge, and of their abilities. Student learning is no longer a big responsibility of the teacher. That doesn't mean that the teacher can just sit around and do nothing...but High schoolers are expected to take individual and personal responsibility towards their academics, just as we take personal responsibility for chores, housework..etc. If need be, they must be "patient and understanding"
towards themselves. By HS level, they take responsibility for their own academic work and effort, rather than acting immature and not doing their work, not even trying, or just calling the teacher names every time they receive a low test score.
If I tutored middle schoolers...ok, I might try to get involved to motivate them in academics. Also, be a bit more interactive. When you're in middle school, you're only a child. But you are not a child throughout your life. You must grow up and accept responsibility for your current academic capabilities. If this means studying 2-3 hours more, then so be it. If this means studying 2-3 hours less b/c the material is easy, congratulations! Simply put, academics is primarily an individual responsibility. A teacher can help "guide" one through material, evaluate skills and set standards, but ultimately it is the STUDENT'S OWN effort and determination/"motivation" that pushes him/herself through.
ANd in rare cases, you might get a bad algebra teacher. TOO BAD! YOu still have to learn how to multiply fractions, and not having so good a teacher simply means that you'll have to rely on yourself a bit more! Just that, nothing more. A HS student should be able to rely on him/herself in such a case, rather than give up and watch TV all night, and call the teacher names.
Not all teachers are going to be extremely nice and lenient towards their course content. What determines whether a student ends up slacking off or actually learning the material is truly a sense of academic responsibility. Parents do not have to push students through college-->e.g., as "Johnny! If you don't start on your term paper, you're grounded!"
A sense of academic responsibility is required. And it begins in HIGH SCHOOL.
