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jonegil
the more i grow up the more i realize that most of my school colleagues and peers are very selfish and that i should not rely on them. So i'd like to know what you guys think about this
Astronuc said:I rely on family, friends (both close and not so), colleagues, acquaintances, and even strangers.
I prefer to give people the benefit of doubt, and I think most people try to do the right thing.
This is true. I didn't qualify the level of reliance or trust.Ivan Seeking said:There are many levels of trust. It also depends on what might be gained by betrayal.
None of my friends are like that though. I do not associate with people who are concerned about status or in some way conceited.jonegil said:yeah...but y'all know many people are "double-faced"...they seem to be gentle and kind but they are greedy and envious always trying to overcome their peers. It's all about status
Being selfish means prioritizing one's own needs and desires above those of others, often at the expense of others' well-being. It can manifest in various behaviors such as not sharing, not considering others' feelings, or always putting oneself first.
Pay attention to how your friends act and treat you in different situations. Do they always expect you to do things for them without reciprocating? Do they often disregard your feelings or needs? These may be signs that your friends are exhibiting selfish behavior.
It is natural for people to have some degree of selfishness, as we all have our own needs and desires. However, a healthy friendship involves balance and mutual consideration. If your friends consistently prioritize themselves and disregard your well-being, it may not be a healthy dynamic.
Not necessarily. While it is important to prioritize self-care and set boundaries, constantly putting oneself above others can be a sign of immaturity. True maturity involves being considerate and empathetic towards others.
It is important to communicate openly and honestly with your friends about how their behavior is affecting you. Approach the conversation calmly and without accusations. It may also be helpful to suggest ways in which your friends can show more consideration towards you and others. However, if the behavior continues and negatively impacts your well-being, it may be necessary to reevaluate the friendship.