alantheastronomer said:
Does the perturbation "stretch" spacetime beyond asymptotic flatness? ...Causing an expansion?
I think there is some confusion behind this question, but I'm not sure what it is or how to resolve it.
If you look at the usual picture of a linearized plane gravitational wave in a vacuum, such as
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gravitational_wave#/media/File:GravitationalWave_PlusPolarization.gif you'll see that in this particular description, at any instant in time the wave stretches space in one direction, compresses it in the other, and has no effect on time. This description is coordinate dependent, it based on the tranverse-traceless (TT) gauge, so it is a coordiante and gauge dependent description of a linearized plane GW.
I believe the expansion scalar for this wave is zero, the net effect on a spatial volume element of expansion in one direction and compression in the other is zero.
Asymptotic flatness may or may not be satisfied by a GW. It's certainly possible to have gravitational waves in an asymptotically flat space time, for instance those emitted by a binary inspiral in an asymptotically flat space-time. Those waves won't be the global plane-wave solution I referred to previously, however. The waves emitted from an inspiral will get weaker as they get further away from the source. Eventually they will become undetectable. At this point they won't perturb the background, and if the solution had a flat background without the GW's, it will have a flat background with the GW's. However, the plane-wave solution I referred to earlier won't get weaker with distance, so they won't be asymptotically flat.
GW's in asymptotically flat space-time can be regarded as contributing energy to the space-time. Thus a vacuum space-time with GW's can have a non-zero ADM mass due to the presence of the GW's. The ADM mass is a sort of conserved mass or energy that is associated with asymptotically flat space-times. This can be loosely described by saying that the GW carries energy if one is careful to define what one means by energy, which isn't easy to do in GR. The "sticky bead argument" also suggests that GW's contain energy, in spite of them being vacuum solutions. However, It's also possible to confuse oneself by thinking that GW's carrry energy with the wrong interpretation of what one means by energy.
I'm not sure if any of this will help, but it's my best shot at an answer at this time.