sameeralord said:
1. Why does everything try to reach equilibrium? (Extremes are generally harmful and for survival of this word equilibrium is required is that the reason)
If you dig the question a bit, the first answer is: we call in fact "equilibrium", the "most probable state". If you dig the question even more, the answer is that we don't really know

but it is probably best to stop just before reaching this conclusion.
Not always, and in all circumstances, systems try to reach "equilibrium", but most of the time they do, and that comes about because, contrary to what you seem to think, the "system" doesn't "know" anything of where it "has to go" and its interactions make it wander of eratically. Now, if you wander off eratically, chances are that you will end up in the "biggest chunk" of possibilities, and that's nothing else but the "equilibrium state".
Consider it this way: suppose your system is 100 dice in a (big) jar. Now, if you throw the dice, and you make the sum of all outcomes, then the outcome "100" is extremely rare, because there is only ONE dice configuration that can do this (all dice must be "1"). In the same way, the outcome "600" is extremely rare, because again, only one dice configuration can do that (all dice must be "600").
But 350 is the most probable, because it has the most different possible dice configurations that sum to 350. So the "equilibrium" sum must be somewhat around 350.
It is only if the motions of the dice in the jar would somehow "know what to do" that you could deviate from this. Randomly thrown dice will tend to have a sum around 350, simply because there are more different configurations of them leading to that sum than to any other. So "350" corresponds to the biggest "chunk" in "configuration space" (or "possibility space of the system").
2. From where do the particles get energy to move from high to low and how do they know they have to move from high to low to reach equilibrium.
They exchange energy with one another. Some win, some loose, and the distribution of energy over the different constituents is one of the things that will settle in "most probable" configuration.
edit: btw, it is not in general true that "systems try to reach lowest energy". Otherwise, all water would freeze, all air would liquify etc...