Let's just clear up some terminology.
Relative acceleration, or more specifically coordinate acceleration, of A relative to B, is the second time-derivative of the distance between A and B as measured in B's coordinate system. In general, different observers will disagree on the coordinate acceleration of an object.
Proper acceleration is the acceleration measured by an accelerometer. It's also equal to the coordinate acceleration relative to a comoving inertial observer (momentarily at rest relative to the thing being measured). It's also equal to the magnitude of the 4-accleration tensor, therefore a scalar invariant, something all observers agree with.
As proper acceleration is the magnitude of a 4-vector, therefore independent of choice of coordinates. There are tensor equations to calculate proper acceleration in any coordinate system.
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