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Graduate school can be significantly more challenging for those with children, primarily due to the demands of juggling academic responsibilities and parenting. Many successful grad students with children rely heavily on supportive spouses or family members for childcare, which is crucial for managing time effectively. Experiences vary, with some students finding it easier when their children are older and can understand their absence, while those with younger children face more difficulties. A common strategy involves working late hours after children are asleep or utilizing time during school hours for academic tasks. It is suggested that if possible, individuals should consider postponing having children until after graduate school, as post-doctoral years tend to offer more flexibility for family life. However, for those already with children, pursuing graduate studies is feasible with the right support and time management.
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Does anyone here attend graduate school and have children to raise? What are your experiences? Would you recommend it to others? Read "Graduate School With Children" from the Chronicle of Higher Education: View attachment Graduate School With Children.pdf
 
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I don't have children, so never had to deal with that myself, but I do know people who went through grad school with children. It does make it harder, because you're juggling more things. One thing grad students with children seemed to have in common were VERY supportive spouses or other relatives as caretakers (one grad student's mother moved into the town after his son was born, and made it possible for him to be away from home so much).

Some of the grad students I knew with children had older children, so it was a bit easier...the kids were old enough to understand why mommy wasn't home. Others had very young children, and really did a lot of juggling. They couldn't count on being able to get work done when at home like the rest of us did, so did have to stay in the office more when they needed to read or write. When they were actively doing research, it was a lot of night hours, after the kids were in bed. One person would come in after her kids were off to school or daycare, take her own classes, get home in time for the kids to get home from school, supervise their homework, make them dinner, get them tucked into bed, then head back to the lab to do her research.

I wouldn't recommend it if you can postpone having kids until after grad school (post-doc years are a lot easier time for having children, in my opinion), but if you already have them, don't let it hold you back from grad school as long as you realize it's going to be a little more difficult juggling everything.
 
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Moonbear said:
One thing grad students with children seemed to have in common were VERY supportive spouses or other relatives as caretakers
Yes, it seems childcare is the biggest issue, but if the mother stays home, and perhaps even works a separate job from home, it seems like it would be much better than if both parents were grad students and sending their children to daycare.
Moonbear said:
post-doc years are a lot easier time for having children, in my opinion
How so?
 
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