ftr said:
the point I am trying to make is that the particle is a point in QFT in a particular place and that's that, and presumably they still have the same intrinsic quantum numbers.
To the contrary! In relativistic QT the QFT formulation is so much more approriate than the 1st-quantization approach, because you cannot localize particles in a more strict sense than already in non-relativistic QM. The reason is that to resolve a particles position you need other particles to scatter with sufficiently large momenta to have the wanted resolution in position. In relativistic QT an ever higher momentum to scatter particles to localize other particles doesn't lead to a better position resolution, because one creates new particles rather then get better position resolution.
In the formalism of relativistic QT this occurs in the known difficulties to interprete Poincare covariant wave equations in a 1st-quantization way: It simply doesn't make sense for interacting particles (interacting of, e.g., charged with an external em. field is already enough!) to work in a one-particle picture, because with some probability new particles are created or initially present particles are destroyed. So the natural way to formulate relativistic QT is in terms of a QFT, working with a Hilbert space of indefinite particle number.
Another formal hint about the problematic issue of position is that relativistic QT admits the possibility of massless particles (which is not so in non-relativistic physics, where massless particles just don't have a sensible dynamics), and massless particles with a spin ##\geq 1## don't admit the construction of a position operator in the strict sense, i.e., for a massless particle like the photon you cannot even define a position observable to begin with!
Another point is that within non-relativistic QT in the cases, where you deal with a fixed number of particles like in atomic physics, where you have a fixed number of electrons around a nucleus, the first-quantization formulation and the second-quantization formulation (the latter is just non-relativistic QFT) are equivalent. It's just writing the same theory in different mathematical terms, but the physics is completely the same.