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Little help with asking people out

  1. Sep 29, 2008 #1
    So I noticed that these here forums are pretty big on the romance thing.......
    So although I posted earlier, I just wanted to see if anyone else would be willing to help me.
    Here is the scenario.
    I like this girl at school, I would say that she is fairly pretty. I updated her picture on this link
    Anyways, so I know that I like her, but I have no idea if she likes me back. Chances are, if she does, I would ask her out.
    Anyway to find out?
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  3. Sep 29, 2008 #2


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    If she's in one of your classes, make with some small talk. If you get some positive responses, then ask her to lunch or dinner, or coffee in the middle of the day between classes or for a study break.

    For me, if I was seriously interested in a girl, I'd just ask her out.
  4. Sep 29, 2008 #3

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    Try this one: Hi. I have a Porsche.
  5. Sep 29, 2008 #4
    haha, that is the funny part.
    Let me try to explain this again.
    We have two schools in our town. I go to one side and she goes to the other side. The last time I had class with her was in middle school (I belive it was Space Station Design:tongue2:), and I rarely see her that often. However, we do remain in good contact, mostly through facebooking and gchat. As I said, I am really attracted to her, but I have no guts, and no, I am not charismatic like Feynman. I think we have established that we are good friends at this point. Even if I do talk to her in person, what would positive results look like?
  6. Sep 29, 2008 #5

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    Just find something fun to do that you know she will enjoy, and ask her to join you. Don't make it a date. Make it a day - just have fun and the rest will take care of itself.
  7. Sep 29, 2008 #6
    I bet you have lunch at the same time...If your town isn't that big you could meet somewhere sometime...

    I have to ask, did the part about Feynman have anything to do with that xkcd comic?
  8. Sep 29, 2008 #7
    Dude ask her out before it's too late. You will never go out with her if you don't ask her out and if you don't then it is just something to regret later on.
  9. Sep 29, 2008 #8
    Well lets see, our schools are seperated by 5 miles across and in 45 min, it seems very unlikely we could do something worthwhile, while we did come nearby.
    Like I said, how would i ask her out. I find it iIncredibly lame to ask someone out on gchat. “Hi, want to go out with me?”=instant reject.
    Funny thing is, I think the last time we bonded was at a science competition when our schools were competing. I think she would find it awkward if I said, suddenly to bring her somewhere, etc.
  10. Sep 29, 2008 #9
    you're going to let 5 miles stop you?

    you got to get the ball rolling. Its on you to do it.

    the day she hooks up with another guy you'll regret it if you didnt do nothing.
  11. Sep 29, 2008 #10
    Well don't rush things. Just hang out with her more often...
  12. Sep 29, 2008 #11
    buddy let me remind you that i bike to school and it takes me ~20 to get there and another~20 to get back, so what does that leave me 5min!?!?!?!
  13. Sep 29, 2008 #12
    and i think if i think about it, it takes me 5 miles, and 7 miles, so sqrt(7^2+5^2) is the actual distance
  14. Sep 29, 2008 #13
    Do you have her phone number? If so, just call her up and say something like "Hey, how's it going? I'm going to X this weekend, and could use some company, care to join me?"...

    Note: Don't actually say "X", replace that with something that you find interesting that's happening this weekend, or a park that you enjoy spending time at, or something like that. Make sure it's something that you'll enjoy doing even if she doesn't show, then just have fun.
  15. Sep 29, 2008 #14
    find a regional science competition and ask her to be your partner. That way you can spend time with her at her house or yours.
  16. Sep 29, 2008 #15
    these are good suggestions, but quite interestingly is, I rarely leave my house and the things i like to do, like tennis, she isnt so hot about (she is a swimmer and a runner).
    I think science is the only thing that could link me to her lawl, and the next science event comes up in spring, any more suggestions
  17. Sep 30, 2008 #16
    Would it help to mention, that she has already dated someone else before?
  18. Sep 30, 2008 #17
    I don't really think so. Ask her out for coffee or something with some mutual friends. And then you guys can hang out but it's not a 'date'.

    Postive results include if she plays with her hair while talking to you, listens to stuff you say, meets your eyes and doesn't look away immediately (longing glances are a dead giveaway that there could be something) and laughs at a joke you made that even you found completely lame.
  19. Sep 30, 2008 #18
    Generally what you look for is if she talks about you, laughs with you often, or touches you in a playful way. But as good friends, chances are you already get that.

    So you're pretty much screwed.

    edit: why is it that immediately after I post something someone says the exact same thing a few minutes earlier. every thread LOL
  20. Sep 30, 2008 #19
    well i dont know too much of the touching.....
    i guess it happens as friends, most of what everyone has mentioned.
    so what is it, should I ask her out....
    FYI-not a coffee, carbonated beverage, alcohol drinker.......
  21. Sep 30, 2008 #20
    Touches you in the shoulder or takes things from your hand... don't get ideas =P

    That is generally a good sign that she is not disgusted by your presence.

    Is she happy to see you, says hi, etc? Or is she putting on an act and embarassed by you. These would be good signs of potential; nothing however guarentees a date as women are from Venus and they use a different system of logic. (This is why a lot of girls are frustrated with math)
  22. Sep 30, 2008 #21
    YES! Ask her out. And the term 'for a coffee' means just into town somewhere. Or to the movies, if she talks about a movie on gchat that's a good opening.

    Oh, and if she kisses you it means she likes you. Just in case you're not sure.
  23. Sep 30, 2008 #22
    oh um she says hi to me when we see eachother, but then again, she isnt the type who would blush... (at least I have never).
    I dont think she is disgusted by my presence openly (hell, I scare myself, did you see my photo lawl), but I am not a frequent smiler.
    She does laugh at my jokes, but I only say jokes when they are funny....
    I dont expect a kiss, i mean touching is ok, but I think kissing is a bit off...
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  24. Sep 30, 2008 #23
    If you aren't fooling yourself I say you stand a decent chance then. Don't blurt it out though. Time it right and have confidence. The worst she'll do is say no, shrug it off and say "heh worth a shot".

    And am I the only one who finds it rude to post someone elses photo on a public forum without that person's consent? Haha.
  25. Sep 30, 2008 #24
    One thing. You are not disgusting and being here you should be smart enough to realize that. Quit saying crap like that or you'll never get a date. You want to see disgusting? Have you ever seen a picture of (name deleted by mentor). HE is disgusting!!!
    Go ahead and ask her out. If you don't, but you keep hanging around pretty soon you'll be the "gay, best friend" you don't want to get that label. Ask her out, don't call her the next day and you'll be in like flynn.
  26. Sep 30, 2008 #25
    I just am not happy with my appearance, I look rather too emo for my liking or some sort of serial killer because my nature lacks smiles.
    This is her picture off of facebook. Pretty aint she?
    I think in general, I'll do it within this month :lol:, but when is the right time to ask?
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