Demystifier said:
I've seen many times such an argument, but I never liked it. After all, what is so special about the Hamiltonian operator? OK, if the number operator does not commute with the Hamiltonian, then the number of particles is not conserved. But so what? If some quantity is not conserved, it does not mean that this quantity does not make sense.
I think this is actually the heart of the matter --- returning to your original goal of looking for particles in general, rather than just QCD.
You are completely correct in that the number operator always makes sense. After all, we can define it! That pretty much defines "makes sense". However, just because something makes sense doesn't mean that it is a helpful quantity to consider. This is perhaps an easier thing to accept if you have a condensed matter background. The game is never "what is the exact description", but rather "what is the *simplest* description". If something doesn't commute with the Hamiltonian, then its evolution with time is massively complex, and then even if you had an exact solution, you would have understood almost nothing.
Let's consider QED. There, the Gaussian sector gives you number, charge, momenta, etc. The interaction doesn't commute with number, but only weakly --- for a given initial number, the change is slow and gradual. It might not be a perfect quantum number, but one can still picture Feynman diagrams rather naively and see them as describing important physical processes.
Now in QCD this is no longer true. The number operator has a complex evolution, and also very quickly. But this is simply a sign that one should be trying to label the solutions differently --- so number operators of baryons, mesons, etc. rather than the quarks and gluons. Now, of course, we don't really know how to do this rigorously... I think you might like to look into things like chiral perturbation theory, which I think (in principle at least) would give you what you're looking for.
I don't know what your background is, but I seriously recommend (and to all HEP) some condensed matter. Most importantly, the concept of particle has been vigorously debated and frustrated over. After all, unlike in relativistic quantum fields, sometimes the total lack of translational symmetry completely destroys attempts such as identifying representations of the Poincaré group! One should definitely try and understand superconductivity, because it's a demonstration of creating new bound particles and then completely switching the description to be in terms of those, and also fractional/integer quantum hall effects, where one finds fractionalisation of electrons and also find them fundamentally hard to pin down (localised energy? hah!) but yet find them indispensable in creating a physical picture. The goal is to get a broader view of quantum fields, not restricted by the rather rigid rules that HEP tends to run in. A truly eye opening moment is realising that the "vacuum" is just a material ground state, and has nothing special going for it at all...