I see it this way:
My university wood shop had one of those retracting table saw blades (SawStop) that would retract virtually the instant it touched a finger (or a hot dog, or any fleshy, conductive material). It is a terrific device as far as safety goes, but they are somewhat expensive and have to be replaced if they go off (as they destroy the blade, and the mechanism itself).
If a student ripping a piece of lumber and his finger accidentally touched the blade--causing the blade to retract; saving his finger but ultimately costing the school money for the replacement--the school would gladly pay for the replacement. The student did nothing on purpose, and the device served its purpose.
However, if the student tried to run a hot dog through the saw to test the device (which then, obviously retracted the blade and required a whole new setup), we would hold this student responsible for all damages and costs. And rightly so.
If you're in an elevator and something goes wrong, generally no one will give you any problem as its recognized that if a safety feature engages while you are using something properly, then all that really happened is the device (which needs to be fixed/replaced/whatever) saved them from the liability if you had been injured had it not done its thing.
If you misuse something, like an elevator, and cause some safety device to engage (which then has to be fixed/replaced/whatever) then you created unecessary costs for the school.
With that said, it stinks to have to pay damages for things like this. If you're going to try to defend yourself, it might be a good idea to find out what exactly happened with the elevator, and also maybe contact the manufacturer, to see if you can go with the "the safety shouldn't have engaged with just three people jumping pretty asynchronously". Trying to use basic physics on a problem like this is almost laughable though. You're best bet (i'd think) is, if they already know that you were jumping in there, to explain that you were curious about the feelings of varying g-forces in elevators and that you knew that the three of you couldn't produce enough force to reach the rated weight limit so you figured it would be ok (ignorance is your savior here, not physics). You want them to know that you weren't jumping just to horse around (unless you were, then you deserve to pay for the damages) and that you really didn't expect anything to happen, given the load rating as stated on the sign.
Rudimentary physics will not get you off this one. You'll just look like a jerk and wind up paying anyway. If it's a lot of money that they're looking for and you have no other recourse, maybe find an engineer willing to work for cheap who can help you make your case. If they want you to pay, showing them a piece of paper with three lines of math and "seeee, told you!" won't thwart them.