µ³ said:
They went probably went something like this:
"While µ³ may achieve high grades, he never shows up for class, only turns in about half the assignments, rarely on time. However, he gets just high enough on a final to make an A except for the times he doesn't and gets a C".
Nobody writes a recommendation letter like that. But, it might have been a very bland, unenthusiastic letter, which can be just as bad, such as "I am writing this letter on behalf of... who took my ...class in ...semester. He received an A in my class, which covered topics such as... " If you hardly ever showed up for class, how could they write much more than that about you since they have no idea who you are? Get letters from people who KNOW you.
I can't really take more graduate classes if I'm not in school (I just graduated). This is why I'm asking if there's any place that's weak enough to accept me this late, but competitive enough that I have a good chance to get into a good grad school with a Master's given that I don't slack off again.
STOP! Here is the point where you have an important question to ask yourself. WHY did you slack off the first time around? Why were you not motivated to show up for classes or to get an A on EVERY exam, not just enough to scrape together enough points for the final grade? Are you REALLY motivated by this subject and to work hard, and will you REALLY not slack off again? Get a job for a year and do some deep thinking about what you really enjoy and what motivates you. If you aren't so excited about a subject that you can't bear to miss a lecture on it, and are only interested in doing enough work to get a good grade, but not to really dig in and learn it for the sake of learning it, then you really don't belong in grad school.
In all my SOP's I included specific people, groups, and research I would like to partake in. Although I may have not really decided what I want to do, I made sure to not make it seem that way to the programs I was applying to.
Did you get any interviews? Unless you're a pro at acting, it would be hard to come across truly enthusiastic about a research area if you're just going through the motions listing them for the sake of applications and not because it's something that really interests you. Again, if you're so uncertain of what you want to do, why do you want to go to grad school? How are you sure you want to go to grad school? When you find the area that really excites you and you can't stop talking about it, THEN consider grad school.
At my REU at UCLA, they never gave me a time to show up. So in the beginning I would show up around 9-9:30 and leave at 5pm. I started noticing that no one seemed to care so by the end I was showing up at around 11am-2pm and leaving around 4pm. I was however still getting a lot of work done and meeting regularly with the people I was working with. At the end the project I spoke with the advisor for the REU. He said he understood that not everyone works the same way and that it appeared I still did good work so I asked him for recommendations. I asked if it was possible for me to work there the following Spring before grad school starts since I was graduating in December and wouldn't really have anything to do in spring. They said that was fine contingent on grants coming through so that they could afford to fund me, and acceptance, which they said shouldn't be a big hurdle.
Again, I'm seeing a common theme here. "Nobody seemed to care"...including you. Contrast this with an intern I had last summer...I don't tell people what time to show up either unless it's something I need to be there to show them...she was usually in the lab before I got there in the morning, was willing to stay late into the evenings if necessary, came in on weekends if necessary, and if she didn't have work to do in the lab, asked for relevant research articles to read in her spare time to better understand the subject of our research. THAT is grad student type behavior, and although I haven't yet convinced her to go to grad school, I have arranged for her to work with us after she graduates this year, because I really WANT her in my lab, and if she did decide to apply to grad school, that's what I'd tell people on reference letters, that she is so great
I want her in
my lab...I don't even know or care what her grades look like, because I've seen her work and her dedication and know how quickly she grasped the concepts of the research project we were doing. THAT is what graduate programs are looking for, someone who is SELF-motivated.
However, I failed to turn in the required paper until 6 months later. The project I was working on was a program that compiled data from a billion instruments/simulations from different servers in order to perform a particular calculation. I finished what was originally planned out for me to do pretty early (3rd week), so naturally we kept coming up with more ways to extend the program to collect a wider variety data and be more versatile and include data analysis. I didn't technically finish the project (latest outline of it). They said this was ok. However, an incomplete program is useless so I suggested I'd finish it from home. The various servers I was using were constantly changing and updating and every time I fixed a bug, an old piece of the program would break until it got to the point where my progress was in the negatives.
Sounds like a lot of excuses. I know I'm being harsh here, but I think you need to take a step back and look more objectively at everything you're writing here and think really hard about why you are even applying to grad school at all. What I'm seeing here isn't someone who really wants to go to grad school, but someone who may be truly undecided about what they want to do and is trying to use grad school to avoid making a decision yet.
It didn't help that the two grad classes I signed up for were kicking my ass (I was so used to easy undergrad classes; didn't think it'd be that different),
That's a BIG RED FLAG! Again, maybe you aren't sufficiently prepared to handle graduate level work yet. You realize that grad students have more than two classes at a time AND are expected to be actively doing research as well? My experience with graduate level classes was they were easier for me than undergrad classes...because they were all focused on subjects I LOVED learning about, and were all my strong areas...that's why I chose the subject I did for grad school. When you love a subject, it's just so much easier than all those undergrad courses you take just because you need to fulfill requirements for graduation.
on top of having to work 40 hours a week to pay rent so I would only work on the program maybe twice a month. Regardless, In the e-mail exchanges with the professors I was doing the program for I kept telling them that I was "almost done". By January, my ssh accounts expired and I was too embarrassed to try to get them re-instated. They too gave up and stopped e-mailing me.
Naturally, I'm sure word of the incomplete project and 6 month late research paper got around to graduate admissions.
And what assurance would ANY program have that you wouldn't quit part-way through your next project? That's not laziness, that's quitting. In research, it's common for things to take longer than expected, for progress to seem more like regression, for unexpected obstacles to pop up...a good candidate perseveres through all of that and still gets it done. Late isn't a big deal, but completely giving up and not even keeping in touch with your advisor IS a big deal.
My suggestion at this point is NOT to apply to another graduate program, but first get your act together and figure out what you want to do and why you want to do it. Take a few steps back and find something that really does motivate you to get up in the morning. Consider these rejections as a second chance to avoid making a huge mistake of committing yourself to a long time of doing something you really don't enjoy as much as you're desperately trying to convince yourself you do. Trust me, there IS something out there you really want to do and that will really motivate you, and when you find it, if it requires graduate training, THEN you will apply to grad school and get your admittance.