I have been with this girl for 7 years, and known her for 12. Things hadn't been completely right for a long time but lately, say in the last year, they got worse. We argued frequently because we both have kind of strong personalities. Ultimately though, I decided that some of her personality traits were not compatible with mine (she was too controlling, unwilling to compromise and treating me like she was my mother basically) so I drove to her house, rang the bell and told her I was leaving her. Her reaction was rather brutal, as she didn't really expect such a thing from me. I feel that all in all I have been honest and that this is preferbale to, say, waiting to find another girl before leaving her. However (it's been 2 months since that day) I was informed that she still feels very bad and misses me terribly and that she feels it's as if I was dead to her, she is not eating much etc. Although this decision has set me free and I wouldn't want to go back to any relationship right now I feel un unmeasurable sens of guilt for making her suffer. I think about it very often and can't seem to forgive myself. In spite of this I have always rejected all of her offers to meet or talk on the phone. I chose to disappear completely. Any comments or suggestions? Has anyone had similar experiences? Sorry for my english, I'm Italian.