Tesla: first, those are good questions...but not with any precise answers.
One general comment: gravity, which is the weakest of all the classical forces in everyday situations we observe, dominates at singularities, changing space and time and likely mass as well. They all appear to lose their classical meaning.
I agree with you in general about density, but I don't think there is any theoretical nor experimental evidence that density IS infinite in a black hole. Nor at the big bang: We simply don't have any theory for the singularity at the big bang nor the singularity of a black hole. Nobody knows what happens at those entities.
That's one reason most physicsts believe we need to go beyond general relativity and quantum mechanics to some kind of quantum gravity...something that "unifies" those disparate theories and can describe those singularities.
One of the concepts arguing against "infinite" anything in a black hole is the entropy (information) of a black hole horizon...It's finite...search Holographic principle for some interesting reading. It's not even related to the VOLUME of the black hole but the AREA!
such as
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holographic_principle
Planck length is an example of the discord between GR and QM: it plays no part as far as anyone knows in GR and yet is a cornerstone of QM, analogous to Heisenberg uncertantinty which is also absent from GR.
We've had some good discussions about Planck length in these forums...a search and some reading might be worthwhile. Check out "double special relativity" for some discussion on Planck length and special relativity length contraction. Does Planck length "contract" when observed at near light speed?
Hawking radiation only "spews" when the universe cools as LOT more...Nobody can yet observe Hawking radiation. If you search Hawking radiation you'll find some descriptions in these forums. An intuitive description which Hawking used was that two virtual particles created near the horizon might separate and one with positive energy might escape...the other disappearing behind the horizon...It's related to Unruh effect where particles "materialize" to an observer undergoing acceleration.
Also, density = mass/area may need a lot of work...nobody knows exactly what either mass of length (area) is...So I would not be surprised that all three concepts might take on new form at singularities. But all we know for sure is that our theories (GR and QM) so far don't fit. One perspective arises from degeneracy pressure,,,electron and then neutron..."mass" make take on new perspectives when these conditions arise.
One of the most interesting books on black holes I've come across is Leonard Susskind's THE BLACK HOLE WAR about his long running disagreements with Hawking over black holes...Barely more than HS math, but loads of fascinating concepts. Lee Smolin's THREE ROADS TO QUANTUM GRAVITY is also very good but not so closely related specifically to black holes.