PeterDonis said:
Well, Penrose is far from the only guy to point out the uniqueness of gravity (as I was originally trying to do) so I'm sure you can find tons of references (including any standard GR textbook that talks about gravity not being a force, but rather as a feature of space-time, which also points out its uniqueness in this regard!)
However, one of the more delightful to read descriptions is in Penrose's book Shadows of the Mind, Section 4.4, where he talks about causality and light-cone tilting, something that becomes very evident in highly “curved” space-times. I'll quote some of it here that elucidate this point, but the entire section is a good read.
“The reason for this is that gravity actually influences the
causal relationships between space-time events, and it is the
only physical quantity that has this effect. Another way of phrasing this is that gravity has the unique capacity to 'tilt' light cones. No physical field
other than gravity can tilt light cones, nor can any collection whatever of non-gravitational physical influences”
….
“The foregoing remarks illustrate the fact that “tilting' of light cones, i.e. the distortion of causality, due to gravity, is not only a subtle phenomenon, but a
real phenomenon …. Nothing known in physics
other than gravity can tilt the light cones,
so gravity is something that is simply different from all other known forces and physical influences, in this very basic respect”
(Italics: Penrose emphasis; Bold: my emphasis)
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As far as extrinsic vs intrinsic curvature, sure you can use the math to talk about extrinsic curvature, but to quote Wald:
“Our space-time manifold M with space time metric g_uv is not naturally embedded (at least as far as we know) in a higher dimensional space. Thus, we wish to develop an
intrinsic notion of curvature ... ”
So, yeah extrinsic curvature
can be “pulled out” of the the math. But, does describing gravity utilizing General Relativity require it? Does General Relativity predict that our Universe is embedded in a higher dimensional space? No. This is why I said it does not address it. (i.e there are no useful testable hypotheses). On the other hand, the notion of
intrinsic curvature, in light of GR, does lead to solid testable descriptions of certain phenomenon that, if you wish, could be said to be caused by space-time “curvature”.
You can say a lot with math. If I don't mind putting the Earth at the center of the solar system, I can describe the planetary motions with epicycles, but this does not represent reality. Is this the same with adding extra dimensions to re-interpret the other three forces as curvature. Is it useful and are there any known tests to exhibit the reality of the idea in question? Maybe there is. I'm unfamilar with that idea. If there is not, I'm not sure it's pertinent to the question at hand?
The OP is titled “does space
actually curve”. I think GR, as pointed out by Penrose, has plenty of evidence to support the idea that there is a uniqueness to the
reality of gravity, part of which can be called space-time curvature.
Good luck with visualizing it though ;-)