Stop Posting Creepy Dating Advice - Seek Professional Help

[Cyrus]

No more of these threads. Please stop with them. They are getting old fast. If you are over the age of 18, please turn to friends/family for dating advice. Live and learn, make mistakes and move on. But for God's sake, stop posting in here about some girl that farted in your direction in lecture and now you think she is in love with you. Some of these anti-social posts are downright creepy. Seek professional help.

 

[edward]

No more of these threads. Please stop with them. They are getting old fast. If you are over the age of 18, please turn to friends/family for dating advice. Live and learn, make mistakes and move on. But for God's sake, stop posting in here about some girl that farted in your direction in lecture and now you think she is in love with you. Some of these anti-social posts are downright creepy. Seek professional help.

In some countries that would be considered a wedding vow.

 

[Cyrus]

In some countries that would be considered a wedding vow.

Leave me and my cousin out of this.

 

[Math Is Hard]

hee hee. I saw this thread title and thought, "oh god, Cyrus has fallen in love".

 

[lisab]

But Cyrus, this forum is frequented by young people. And a lot of young people have doubts and anxieties about relationships.

So, I think it's inevitable that girls (or boys) will be on their minds.

 

[Cyrus]

But Cyrus, this forum is frequented by young people. And a lot of young people have doubts and anxieties about relationships.

So, I think it's inevitable that girls (or boys) will be on their minds.

People over 18 should have a clue.

 

[Cyrus]

hee hee. I saw this thread title and thought, "oh god, Cyrus has fallen in love".

I'd like you all to meet Mrs. Cyrus-is-hard, we got married last week in bora bora.

Hiyoooooooo.

 

[mgb_phys]

this forum is frequented by young people.

It's frequented by physicists - are you going to start asking for fashion advice on programming.reddit?

 

[lisab]

People over 18 should have a clue.

But you've seen some posts on this forum...a lot don't.

 

[Cyrus]

But you've seen some posts on this forum...a lot don't.

There is a age where you have to just say...well...too bad kiddo.

There are enough threads out there with advice for the clueless to read up on by using the search function.

 

[lisab]

It's frequented by physicists - are you going to start asking for fashion advice on programming.reddit?

They post these questions in GD, not quantum mechanics.

Besides, a lot of people here are smart, friendly, and have a lot of life experience - where else might they find such people?

 

[mcknia07]

I'd like you all to meet Mrs. Cyrus-is-hard, we got married last week in bora bora.

Hiyoooooooo.

Congrats, Cy! You finally found your sole mate...

 

[Cyrus]

They post these questions in GD, not quantum mechanics.

Besides, a lot of people here are smart, friendly, and have a lot of life experience - where else might they find such people?

Room mates, or class mates, or friends. You don't build social skills talking to people on a physics forum.

 

[russ_watters]

No more of these threads. Please stop with them. They are getting old fast. If you are over the age of 18, please turn to friends/family for dating advice. Live and learn, make mistakes and move on. But for God's sake, stop posting in here about some girl that farted in your direction in lecture and now you think she is in love with you. Some of these anti-social posts are downright creepy. Seek professional help.

Uh, so there's this girl, uh, I'm not sure if she likes me but I think she likes me but I don't know but she might like my best friend but she seems to like me. What should I do?

 

[russ_watters]

hee hee. I saw this thread title and thought, "oh god, Cyrus has fallen in love".

Really? I knew it wasn't possible - I knew it must be a rant.

 

[Cyrus]

Uh, so there's this girl, uh, I'm not sure if she likes me but I think she likes me but I don't know but she might like my best friend but she seems to like me. What should I do?

How many times do I have to tell you. The girl from the internet does not count as a girlfriend.

 

[Math Is Hard]

I'd like you all to meet Mrs. Cyrus-is-hard, we got married last week in bora bora.

Hiyoooooooo.

No way, dude. Marriages in Bora Bora are not legally binding unless the couple has lived there for at least a month. I looked it up.

QED: I'm not ironing your Perry Ellis socks or making you any koobideh.

 

[Cyrus]

No way, dude. Marriages in Bora Bora are not legally binding unless the couple has lived there for at least a month. I looked it up.

QED: I'm not ironing your Perry Ellis socks or making you any koobideh.

Straight to the moon!

 

[Math Is Hard]

Straight to the moon!

 

[Moonbear]

But for God's sake, stop posting in here about some girl that farted in your direction in lecture and now you think she is in love with you.

Oh, c'mon, we all know women don't fart in front of men until they've gotten a ring on the finger (and you wonder why so many men think pulling your finger has something to do with it).

hee hee. I saw this thread title and thought, "oh god, Cyrus has fallen in love".

I was just confused. Then I thought maybe one had fallen for him and he didn't know how to shake her off, but what are the odds of that?

Room mates, or class mates, or friends. You don't build social skills talking to people on a physics forum.

Sure you can. If they're physics majors, their classmates and friends may be even more geeky than the folks they meet here. We're not all physics majors here.

Uh, so there's this girl, uh, I'm not sure if she likes me but I think she likes me but I don't know but she might like my best friend but she seems to like me. What should I do?

Accessorize! This is a good time of year to find a nice selection of gloves for sale.

I think we need to set up an FAQ thread with links to all these other advice threads. Let's prioritize them. I think before we let them move on to the intermediate course on "Does she like me?" we need to first get them through the introductory, "How do I get dressed in the morning?" threads.

 

[Astronuc]

Cyrus - you should draft an FAQ thread for GD.

 

[Borek]

How many times do I have to tell you. The girl from the internet does not count as a girlfriend.

Don't feed the troll. If you don't want them to ask these questions - don't answer them, just ignore.

 

[Jimmy Snyder]

Dear PF,

I'm 58 and need girl advice. I wonder if any total strangers have some insight that is more geared to my situation than I get from people close to me. For instance, when I asked my wife about it she beat a tattoo on my noggin.

Heartbroken (and Headbroken) in Hoboken.

 

[neu]

while we're at it can we not have posts asking for people not to make posts.

If you're tired of it don't read them. If no-one responds no-one will post them any more.

 

[Art]

while we're at it can we not have posts asking for people not to make posts.

If you're tired of it don't read them. If no-one responds no-one will post them any more.

I think we should not have posts asking people to not make posts about people not making posts.

 

[Integral]

hee hee. I saw this thread title and thought, "oh god, Cyrus has fallen in love".

Yeah, me to, but it looks like in reality... He is just jealous of those that have enough of a life to HAVE girl troubles.

Where can I hide to avoid the wrath of Cyrus?

 

[Jimmy Snyder]

while we're at it can we not have posts asking for people not to make posts.

If you're tired of it don't read them. If no-one responds no-one will post them any more.

Would people please stop responding to posts asking people not to respond to posts about people not making posts asking people not to make posts. It confuses me.

 

[JasonRox]

I don't think she likes me.

We were talking on MSN. Had a good conversation like usual. I made her laugh and she said I was cute. Then she said she was busy, I'm not sure why. I have 7 midterms and 11 assignments due Monday, and I have time to talk to her. We do have the same courses so she has the same amount of work as me. Is she lying to me? Is she saying she's busy because she likes someone else? Did I say something wrong?

And then when she said "Bye! Sweet dreams!", she went offline. Usually she will say bye 13 times before heading off and this time it was only once. I miss the usual ending of our MSN conversation...

"Bye! Sweet Dreams!"
*keep talking to her*
"Sweet Dreams!"
*keep talking to her*
"Bye!"
*keep talking to her*
"I need to go bed now. Bye."
*keep talking to her*
"I have school in 5 hours and I need sleep. Bye!"
*keep talking to her*
"Ok, I need to get ready for school now, it's 8am and I have class at 9am. BYE! BYE! BYE!"
*keep talking to her*
"I NEED TO GO TO SCHOOL NOW! GOD!"
*keep talking to her*
...she goes offline...

 

[BobG]

So, I have this girlfriend I ordered on the internet. We'd like to come over for dinner.

There's just one problem. Someone stole her luggage at the airport so he she doesn't have much clothes. Could we borrow some of yours?

I don't think it matters whether she's the same type as you. She doesn't worry about things like that. By the way, she's crippled. And they stole her wheelchair at the airport when they stole her luggage, so I'll have to carry her. Just so you know. And she doesn't talk much. She's kind of shy that way.

Do you think Bianca and I have any future?

By the way, do you know where I can get rid of a big box?

 

[Jimmy Snyder]

Do you think Bianca and I have any future?

No, she sounds like a heartless airhead to me.

 

[rootX]

No more of these threads. Please stop with them. They are getting old fast. If you are over the age of 18, please turn to friends/family for dating advice. Live and learn, make mistakes and move on. But for God's sake, stop posting in here about some girl that farted in your direction in lecture and now you think she is in love with you. Some of these anti-social posts are downright creepy. Seek professional help.

Grow up!
If you don't like something, don't read it. If all people don't like them no one would reply and so no one would post.

You don't have to act inconsiderate/rude towards people who were in a relationship and were mentally instable for few days. Emotions/relationships are very powerful and complex.

 

[GCT]

No more of these threads. Please stop with them. They are getting old fast. If you are over the age of 18, please turn to friends/family for dating advice. Live and learn, make mistakes and move on. But for God's sake, stop posting in here about some girl that farted in your direction in lecture and now you think she is in love with you. Some of these anti-social posts are downright creepy. Seek professional help.

C'mon they're fun .

 

[makethings]

I think we have enough thread to warrant an additional sub-forum about this very issue.

 

[Evo]

How about a thread about realizing that you're happier alone after a lifetime of trying to accommodate someone else?

I see this constant unhappiness and searching for love among single people.

I don't even know how I would manage to spare the time to date someone. I get home from work mentally exhausted. I do the cat/dog maintenance, eat something, get things ready for work the next morning, go to bed, wake up, go to work, come home exhausted - rinse, repeat.

The weekends are spent running errands, cleaning, grocery shopping, cooking and packaging meals for the coming week, then my reward is a few hours on chat while cooking and doing laundry.

I rarely have the presence of mind to respond thoughtfully to an e-mail, much less actually entertain someone.

Love is for the young and energetic.

 

[chaoseverlasting]

I thought Id read the thread/OP wrong.

 

[K.J.Healey]

How about a thread about realizing that you're happier alone after a lifetime of trying to accommodate someone else?

I see this constant unhappiness and searching for love among single people.

I don't even know how I would manage to spare the time to date someone. I get home from work mentally exhausted. I do the cat/dog maintenance, eat something, get things ready for work the next morning, go to bed, wake up, go to work, come home exhausted - rinse, repeat.

The weekends are spent running errands, cleaning, grocery shopping, cooking and packaging meals for the coming week, then my reward is a few hours on chat while cooking and doing laundry.

I rarely have the presence of mind to respond thoughtfully to an e-mail, much less actually entertain someone.

Love is for the young and energetic.

I see it as more of a 'finding someone to share all those menial tasks with' search. Someone that makes those weekends running errands a little more bearable. Someone who you can please with your home cooked meals.

The problem is, especially for a lot of us "science types" is that we are pretty much bred to be independent. So if we don't find someone to share our life with, we don't even feel like we're missing something. Being alone just isn't that lonely. There are lots of things that need to get done, we have a fairly easy time finding hobbies to fill any spare time. There are always friends and family if you actually do get lonely (rare). Usually we don't need to vent emotion, discuss our worries, or seek approval from/with someone. So it makes that dependency that a LOT of other people have pretty much null.

Anyone agree? Maybe its just me. :) (* Though I do have a girlfriend of 4 years... *)

 

[GCT]

The popular conception is that loneliest job in the world is as a writer ... the second is in research. In some countries you actually get more girls being either or e.g. France where intellectualism is admired. The US is not one of them.

 

[Evo]

I see it as more of a 'finding someone to share all those menial tasks with' search. Someone that makes those weekends running errands a little more bearable. Someone who you can please with your home cooked meals.

The problem is, especially for a lot of us "science types" is that we are pretty much bred to be independent. So if we don't find someone to share our life with, we don't even feel like we're missing something. Being alone just isn't that lonely. There are lots of things that need to get done, we have a fairly easy time finding hobbies to fill any spare time. There are always friends and family if you actually do get lonely (rare). Usually we don't need to vent emotion, discuss our worries, or seek approval from/with someone. So it makes that dependency that a LOT of other people have pretty much null.

Anyone agree? Maybe its just me. :) (* Though I do have a girlfriend of 4 years... *)

I agree.

I wouldn't mind being in a stable relationship where the other person carries their own weight and I don't wind up as their chef, accountant, housekeeper, appointment maker, and general caretaker. I want to bypass the first part of the relationship that requires time and effort and just have the "settled in" portion. You know, after you've lived with someone for a few years and they are secure enough that you aren't going to leave them that they allow you to read a book by yourself for a couple of hours without feelings of abandonment.

Anyone that feels they are ready to start a relationship with year 5, we can talk. Oh, you must like squirrels. And you must be a good cook. And take care of yourself. And have money. Two cars in working condition a major plus.

 

[LightbulbSun]

I seriously hope this thread wasn't started because of my thread.

 

[Evo]

I seriously hope this thread wasn't started because of my thread.

No, this is due to the number of threads, I think there is one thread started in 2003 that had over 10,000 replies or something crazy like that.

 

[Astronuc]

I seriously hope this thread wasn't started because of my thread.

Nah - Cyrus just took the opportunity to vent.

I see it as more of a 'finding someone to share all those menial tasks with' search. Someone that makes those weekends running errands a little more bearable. Someone who you can please with your home cooked meals.

The problem is, especially for a lot of us "science types" is that we are pretty much bred to be independent. So if we don't find someone to share our life with, we don't even feel like we're missing something. Being alone just isn't that lonely. There are lots of things that need to get done, we have a fairly easy time finding hobbies to fill any spare time. There are always friends and family if you actually do get lonely (rare). Usually we don't need to vent emotion, discuss our worries, or seek approval from/with someone. So it makes that dependency that a LOT of other people have pretty much null.

Anyone agree? Maybe its just me. :) (* Though I do have a girlfriend of 4 years... *)

It's more about sharing the mundane as well as the fun and exciting. I share in the house work, gardening/landscaping, and I do most of the home and car repair. I do all the heavy work, and much of the dirty work.

My wife and I enjoy doing our own thing, but we also find time to do things together.

I do most of the cooking, but there are time when my wife will cook something special that she likes to cook - although she really doesn't like to cook. I dislike shopping so I leave that to my wife.

We also look at for each other - and have done so for 27+ years.

 

[LightbulbSun]

No, this is due to the number of threads, I think there is one thread started in 2003 that had over 10,000 replies or something crazy like that.

Oh, I see. Well, I do think if you need serious advice on something that's going wrong in a relationship that it's better to seek out independent advice than it is to seek advice from friends and family because they tend to be more bias in your direction. However, I agree with Cyrus that just because a girl gives you a look doesn't mean someone should be asking if the two of them are going to get married someday.

 

[Astronuc]

Oh, I see. Well, I do think if you need serious advice on something that's going wrong in a relationship that it's better to seek out independent advice than it is to seek advice from friends and family because they tend to be more bias in your direction. However, I agree with Cyrus that just because a girl gives you a look doesn't mean someone should be asking if the two of them are going to get married someday.

No, it's best to get to know somebody before one 'falls in love' with them. Infatuation is just the first stage or intro.

I've known lots of girls/women, but there are only three that would be suitable for marriage (to me), and I married the first one, and the other two are dear friends.

 

[LightbulbSun]

No, it's best to get to know somebody before one 'falls in love' with them. Infatuation is just the first stage or intro.

I agree, but some situations do require extra help.

 

[fileen]

If you don't like the topic don't read it, no ones forcing you. Relationships are hard, some people have lots of experience and some people dont. A lot of young people come from split homes and therefore don't have a healthy relationship between their parents to use as an example. I think its disgusting that you would deny someone the advice they feel they need just because the topic irritates you. To a lot of young people relationships are the most emotionally important things in their lives. I personally like PF because I feel like I can come on here and discuss what ever is on my mind without being judged or mocked.

 

[B. Elliott]

Oh, you must like squirrels.

What kind of squirrels we talkin' bout? Eastern grays, Western, Japanese?

 

[NeoDevin]

Anyone that feels they are ready to start a relationship with year 5, we can talk. Oh, you must like squirrels. And you must be a good cook. And take care of yourself. And have money. Two cars in working condition a major plus.

I've got all of that except the money and cars. (I notice being single isn't on your list of requirements)

 

[JasonRox]

I agree.

I wouldn't mind being in a stable relationship where the other person carries their own weight and I don't wind up as their chef, accountant, housekeeper, appointment maker, and general caretaker. I want to bypass the first part of the relationship that requires time and effort and just have the "settled in" portion. You know, after you've lived with someone for a few years and they are secure enough that you aren't going to leave them that they allow you to read a book by yourself for a couple of hours without feelings of abandonment.

Anyone that feels they are ready to start a relationship with year 5, we can talk. Oh, you must like squirrels. And you must be a good cook. And take care of yourself. And have money. Two cars in working condition a major plus.

What if a man pulls his own weight without a car? Or without being wealthy?

What's your definite of pulling your own weight?

 

[K.J.Healey]

What kind of squirrels we talkin' bout? Eastern grays, Western, Japanese?

We had these amazing tiny dark brown squirrels up at Isle Royal National Park (lake superior, MI, USA) that would wake us up with their screech/chirp chatter chatter chatter at 5:30am. I've never heard anything like it.

 

[Evo]

What kind of squirrels we talkin' bout? Eastern grays, Western, Japanese?

I have grays, but all squirrels are welcome.

I've got all of that except the money and cars. (I notice being single isn't on your list of requirements)

Must be single.

What if a man pulls his own weight without a car? Or without being wealthy?

What's your definite of pulling your own weight?

I didn't say wealthy, he just needs to have enough money to cover his own expenses, my days of financially supporting men are over. He must be able to take care of his own needs. That doesn't mean I won't do things for him once in awhile, I'm just through with being my significant other's personal assistant/mother.