ostren said:
What pervect answered you about triangles and trajectories -- I just don't know where all that's going except maybe he desires to confuse you further?
What I'm trying to explain is abstract, but it's fundamentaly not very complicated - it's just geometry.
I'll try some different words, perhaps they'll get through, (or perhaps it won't, we'll have to see).
What is invariant in special relativity is not time, nor space, but the Lorentz interval. The Lorentz interval is the difference of the squares between the space interval, and the time interval multiplied by the speed of light.
ds^2 = dx^2 - (c*dt)^2
So the geometry of special relativity is Lorentzian geometry.
Lorentz geometry is almost the same as Euclidian geometry, but not quite. There is that pesky minus sign in front of c*dt^2.
If you remember your Euclidian geometry, you remember that distance is defined by
ds^2 = dx^2 + dy^2 + dz^2
(this is the Phythagorean theorem). There are no minus signs.
This is what makes some of the results a little different for Lorentzian geometry than they are for Euclidean geometry, such as the fact that that a straight line is the longest time between two points. In Euclidean geometry, it's the shortest distance - it's that minus sign in front of the 't' that makes the difference.
The key point is this. If one draws a diagram, called a space-time diagram, which is just a graph of position vs time, the twin paradox can be represented on this graph by a triangle.
One observer moves along a "straight line" in the Lorentz geometry, called a geodesic. The other observer does not move along a straight line, he moves along two sides of a triangle.
Two points determine a line in flat Lorentzian geometry, just as they do in Euclidian geometry. And the parallel postulate works too (as long as the geometry is flat) - so it is not possible for two different straight lines to join the same two points. Thus, when space-time is flat, there is exactly one observer between any two points who follows a geodesic. (Things get considerably more complicated when space-time isnt' flat, which is why I strongly suggest deferring questions about that case until the situation in flat space-time is understood).
Nobody expects the sum of two sides of a triangle to be equal to the third side in Euclidean geometry. The only reason people expect that the sum of the time readings on two clocks not following a straight line will be equal to the time reading of a third clock that is following a straight line is because they (falsely) think that time is a fundamental invariant. It's not - the true invariant is the Lorentz interval.
Note that the Lorentz interval measured along a path for any observer is proportional the elapsed time for that observer, because of the definition of the interval. In the body's own frame of reference, the distance it travels is zero. So we have
ds^2 = -(c*dt)^2
the Lorentz interval is -c^2 times the time interval.
What's important in resolving the twin paradox is not actually acceleration. Acceleration shows up on a space-time diagram as the curved line. What's important is that one observer
follows a straight line , and the other observer does not.
This shows up in such things as the magnitude of the difference in the clock readings. The difference in the two clocks when they are re-united depends on the distance travelled, and the "angle" on the space-time diagram. The angle can be seen to be related directly to the velocity change with a little graphical work. The acceleration per se is not important except to the extent that it's product with time determines the total angle, the change in velocity.
Acceleration may not be ithe ultimate "cause" of the time dilation, but it is a very convenient way of telling who is traveling along a straight line (a geodesic), and who is not traveling along a straight line. And it's not difficult to understand at all - acceleration can be "felt", the laws of physics are not and never have been independent of acceleration. This is why all Newtonian physics must be done in an inertial frame. Newtonian physics will not work in a non-inertial frame. So anyone who understands Newtonian physics should be able to tell, unambiguously, when a body is accelerating, and when it is not. An accelerating body will have a non-zero force on it in any inertial frame - and in a non-inertial frame, Newton's laws won't apply directly.