In my text, "Multivariable Calculus" by Larson Hostetler, and Edwards (possibly the best intro. to vector analysis yet), the definition of a double integral is
If f is defined on a closed, bounded region R in the xy-plane*, then the double integral of f over R is given by
\int_R\int f(x,y)dA = lim_{|\Delta|\rightarrow0} \sum_{i=1}^{n}f(x_i,y_i)\Delta x_i \Delta y_i
provided the limit exists.
*[my annote: more formally, f:\mathbb{R}^2\rightarrow\mathbb{R}]
That is the two-variable analogue of the single-variable Reimann sum. Basically, your can think of it as adding
volumes over a grid of infinitisemal squares (parallel to the single-variable case, areas over infinitesemal 1d intervals).
Here is a basic example of such an integral and how it is used:
A={(x,y)|0\leq x \leq 1, 0\leq y \leq 3} (rectangle with vertices (0,0) and (1,3))
\int_{A}\int x^2 + 5y\ dx\ dy = \int_0^3\int_0^1 x^2 + 5y\ dx\ dy
=\int_0^3(\int_0^1 x^2 + 5y\ dx) dy
Key thing here is any in integrating with respect to x, any other variable (y) is effectively a constant:
=\int_0^3(\frac{x^3}{3}+5xy)|_0^1 dy
=\int_0^3(\frac{1}{3}+5y)\ dy
=(\frac{1}{3}y+\frac{5}{2}y^2)|_0^3
=1+\frac{45}{2}=23.5
And the indefinite integral would work similarly:
\int\int x^2 + 5y\ dx\ dy = \int(\int x^2 + 5y\ dx) dy
= \int (\frac{x^3}{3} + 5xy)\ dy
= \frac{1}{3}x^3y + \frac{5}{2}xy^2
(this particular integral is valid over all of \mathbb{R}^2
Again,
any variable not being integrated works like a constant.
Note that the order of integration, whether you integrate with respect to y and then x, or x and then y, is 'arbitrary', and when both integrals are defined they give the same answer.
The definite integral I showed you was easy, because the area of integration (parallel to 'interval of integration') was a rectangle. Often the area of integration doesn't have straight sides, it can be a triangle or a circular arc or a cycloid:
\int_0^3 \int_0^{1-y} f(x) dx dy
This definite integral is over a triangle; the inner integrand integrates over x from '0' to '1-y'. A picture would help here...
In tricky cases like circles you can substitue variables, for instance \theta and r for x and y. (this I found was quite hard)
Triple integration is parallel, and you can actually define it inductively from the double integral.
Let me plug my 3rd semester calc. book here, 'multivariable calculus' by Larson, Hostetler and Edwards - it's really clear and has tons of awesome graphics generated by
Mathematica.