Universities, boyfriends and lies

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The discussion revolves around a user seeking advice about their relationship with a boyfriend who has a troubling background, including aggression and extremist views. The user expresses doubts about their boyfriend's honesty and whether he is manipulating them. They mention feeling uncomfortable due to significant ideological differences, particularly regarding views on Jews, and the boyfriend's past involvement with the Ku Klux Klan. Many participants advise the user to reconsider the relationship, highlighting red flags such as the boyfriend's aggression and past legal issues. They suggest contacting a psychologist for support and emphasize the importance of self-worth and finding a partner who respects and aligns with their values. Ultimately, the user reflects on their feelings and recognizes the need to move on from the relationship, acknowledging that they deserve better and expressing interest in someone who treats them well. The conversation underscores themes of self-awareness, the impact of unhealthy relationships, and the importance of personal values in romantic connections.
  • #51
That was sweet Jimmy. But if ALL girls from my part of the world are hot, then you would be looking at everyone else too...? Right? I would prefer a MAN who only glared at me.. :)
 
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  • #52
:( i don't know any other girls from your part of the world... I am a man anyway.. I'm 19. why do you prefer people glaring at you?? throwback from the Viking period?? *pillaging a village near you* Oh well. Better stick to slaying British people and sacking towns locally.
 
  • #53
:smile: I can't believe I have been "e-turned down". I'm not sure if this is the most humiliating experience of my life. :rolleyes: nah, that has to be the time I attempted to jump 8 chairs but hit the first one and crashed spectacularily into a bench. And then got shouted at while I was lying in a painful, crumpled heap. Gotta love school.
 
  • #54
Anyways, I know of someone better... ;)
 
  • #55
jimmy p said:
I attempted to jump 8 chairs but hit the first one and crashed spectacularily into a bench. And then got shouted at while I was lying in a painful, crumpled heap. Gotta love school.

So you're THAT guy. :-p
 
  • #56
He's an ex member of the KKK... wow. that is some scary stuff. I'm glad u realize that u deserve someone better.! Ure a star thallium. just one question, did he have one of those weird bed sheet things they wear over their heads... just wondering. :redface:
 
  • #57
He probably has yes. He has even maintained contact with some of the members there. I think those hoods were pretty sexy.. But black skimasks are far more sexy!
 
  • #58
Thallium said:
Anyways, I know of someone better... ;)

I'm insulted. :cry: Ah well. If anyone needs me I'll be jumping chairs again.
 
  • #59
Thallium said:
I think those hoods were pretty sexy.. But black skimasks are far more sexy!
We're going to find you dead in the bottom of a ravine one day. :frown:

- Warren
 
  • #60
chroot said:
We're going to find you dead in the bottom of a ravine one day. :frown:

Jeez guy, you are such a downer.
 
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  • #61
Thallium said:
He probably has yes. He has even maintained contact with some of the members there. I think those hoods were pretty sexy.. But black skimasks are far more sexy!
:rolleyes:
ummm.. you do understand that the KKK has a history of killing people who are outside of the caucasian race or not in line with the Klan's goals, right?
Why would you find that sexy? Are you attracted to violent men?

Anyway, I don't know why you would tie yourself down with any kind of a boyfriend right now. You have a lot of goals to accomplish and that's going to take a lot of work. If you get tied up with a guy, that's time away from your studies. If you get tied up with a loser guy, he's going to drag you down and waste your time. I am not saying you shouldn't be dating, but a big heavy committed relationship is really going to slow you down in finishing your education. You have said in the past that your educational goals are very important to you.
 
  • #62
Math Is Hard said:
Are you attracted to violent men?
All women are attracted to violent men.
You know that bad boy image girls like? Yeah well those guys are all violent.
 
  • #63
ShawnD said:
All women are attracted to violent men.
You know that bad boy image girls like? Yeah well those guys are all violent.
Uhm , no. Only brain dead air heads are attracted to those types. I have NEVER been attracted to a violent or "bad boy" type. I don't think any woman worth getting to know likes those types.
 
  • #64
Let me rephrase what ShawnD said. Women with low self-esteem are attracted to violent, possessive, controlling men. Because they initially misconstrue such behavior as positive masculine traits.
 
  • #65
The_Professional said:
Let me rephrase what ShawnD said. Women with low self-esteem are attracted to violent, possessive, controlling men. Because they initially misconstrue such behavior as positive masculine traits.
That I would agree with.
 
  • #66
I am NOT attracted to violent men. When I referred to skimasks, I meant for instance the IRA. They are nationalists, fighting for their country. That is sexy. Not thieves who hide behind skimasks when they atack banks and old ladies..

No, I like kind men and the one I have fallen for now happens to be that. I would not like a possessive man who gave me orders and slapped me if I did not obey him. I like MEN! - not beasts...
 
  • #67
The IRA arent nationalists. They are terrorists. The IRA killed my (when i was 4) best friend's dad. Just because he was a British soldier. They shot him on his front door step. In Germany. Now tell me that is fighting for a good cause when you are killing soldiers in a completely different country.

These guys are animals fighting for a stupid cause. If Northern Ireland wants to remain British the Repulicans should let them instead of terrorising them. THAT is not sexy. The Republic is not part of the UK but Northern Ireland is. The Repulicans don't like it so started bombing the place and terrorising the citys. Notice how they got real quiet when the "war on terror" was announced. Not a peep from the IRA nowadays. If they were so keen on fighting for their cause then they would have carried on.

I'm sorry but the first paragraph is personal to myself and my family. That guy was a good family friend.
 
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  • #68
I am sorry too, but that does not change my point of view. The BRITISH people in Ireland want to remain a part of Great Britain. That land belongs to the IRISH.

Call the IRA whatever you want. The word terrorist is always associated with something bad to most people - not me. What needs to be done, needs to be done. They are nationalists as well.

Not a peep from the IRA nowadays no, because most of the factions have declared ceasefire. But two of them have not and are still active.
 
  • #69
I guess jimmy has a valid reason for calling them terrorists, same as with u.. they could be considered as nationalists. that's why I love freedom of expression..... :smile: As a South African, I can relate to their (IRA) struggle for liberation, its admirable, however the loss of innocent life should never be justified wotever the cause. I firmly believe that! Nelson mandela brought our country to freedom without firing a bullet, and I think we can all learn from him. the thing about freedom is that in most cases it is certainly never free.. and sometimes some people are willing to pay high prices for it at someone elses cost. its a sad thing really.
 
  • #70
Actually the are a terrorist organisation. Anyone who deliberately kills civilians is a terrorist. The British people in Ireland are the people from Northern Ireland. The republicans in NI are the ones that cause the hassle. The land of Scotland belongs to the Scottish, the land of England belongs to the English and likewise with Wales... what is your point?

If I decided that I didnt want to be part of the UK anymore and wanted an independent England, and started killing random civilians and bombing buildings am I a terrorist or a nationalist?? They are EXTREMISTS but not religious extremists. The rest of the RoI are happy to live as an independent country, it is just the extremists that think all of Ireland should be Irish.
 
  • #71
NI was once a part of Ireland for the Irish people, but then it was invaded, exploited and occupied by the English. The English are so proud they will not give it back and the Irish want them out of their territory.

You miss the point with the killing. If you kill for your country, you may be considered a nationalist. You love your country. The ones that killed the father of your friend did this because he was an enemy...

I would kill for what was mine, I would kill to protect my country and what belongs to me and my people.
 
  • #72
Yep, I agree with Jimmy. They're nothing more than terrorists.

Thallium, killing civilians for your country does not make you nationalist; it makes you either a war criminal or a terrorist.
 
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  • #73
I have a little more to say...

Using your same logic the palestinian suicide bombers who kill innocents in Israel are sexy, the people killing soldiers in Iraq are sexy, if the native peoples of America rose up and started killing people presumably that would be sexy too, The IRA use violence and fear to try spread their own political agenda, which is the definition of a terrorist, terms like 'nationalist' and 'freedom fighters' are just sugar coats for violent, dangerous and amoral individuals who kill innocents for a cause that is wrong, Northern Ireland is British by vote of the Irish people, by definition they become British Citizens. It's not a struggle for freedom because they're not being oppressed. They might claim it but the only oppression in Northern Ireland comes from these terrorists fighting for and against British sovereignty, its not oppression on the part of the British government.

The IRA are terrorists, they've been responsible for the deaths of over 3000 people since 1962 (the IRA and other associated terror groups). They're comparable to Al Qaeda in terms of the number of people they've killed.

Would you say Osama Bin Laden is sexy?
 
  • #74
besides its not the English... You must watch too many Mel Gibson movies...
 
  • #75
Why do you for care replying? Terrorists - call them whatever you want. Humans are not only "happy-hippie-hoorayh-let's-solve-the-problem-with-apeaceful-solution" - especially not when it does not satisfy both parts.

No, bin Laden is not sexy.

Now, what about the UV, the LVF and the UDA... They have killed people too. Go to www.irishresistancebooks.com, click on "The Guineapigs" and read chapter 3,4 and 5. See how the loyalists treated "civilians" and innocent people.

Civilians is an abused term for gaining compassion. This man was an enemy, and a civilian. But, a "civilian" could be any man on earth. There are no such things as non-civilians.
 
  • #76
Why should I care for replying?? You are slandering my country...

Yes I know there's more then just the IRA, did I mention that I LIVE in Britain? The ULA, the IRA, the pIRA and all the others are all terrorists. So what your saying is that terrorism is 'natural?' and therefore acceptable? I'm sure the families of the 9/11 victims will rest easy at night knowing that.

Any loss of innocent life is a crime, period, especially if its done for the sake of a minority who DONT represent the majority view of the people in Northern Ireland.

Things in Northern Ireland are bad, people in some areas are raised simply to hate others because they were born in the wrong street, intimidation, fighting, vandalism and murder are all too frequent, but generally it doesn't even make the British papers, let alone the Norwegian ones, kids going to school get taunted, abused and harrased by adults to such an extent that they need a police escort. But that is ok i suppose?

I notice your objection to the word 'civilian' would you perhaps care to tell me of another word for a normal person going about their life, the kind of person generally caught in their terrorist actions. In fact in militarilistic terms, a civilian is a non-military personnel. Terrorist organisations usually have military aspects so that I think that is a good enough term for the general populace.

Im not saying Loyalists are better then Republicans, they're all equally bad. I'm just opposing your view that racist murderers are sexy.
 
  • #77
(Disclaimer: I don't make any claims that the following statements do or do not apply to the IRA)

The whole "fight for your freedom" thing means fighting your oppressors, and does not mean killing people who would otherwise be entirely uninvolved with your struggle in hopes of terrorizing them into forcing those who are involved in the struggle to cave.
 
  • #78
I never said that racist murderers are sexy. The outfit that these men use is sexy, not the KKK's themselves.

Your friend's father was a soldier and therefore not a civilian, according to the "militaristic terms" oyu mentioned. That is why we are not talking about killing a civilian. But the IRA should be fighting directly against the other paramilitaries, not casual by-passers and people who are not involved, I agree, and I do not feel comfortable when hearing of killings of not-involved persons. Most of those who have been abducted, killed etc have been involved in some way, either they were tell-taling, spying, killing people in the IRA or opposing them in a violent way. Some of them were fanatics, some were loyalists/unionists.

"Any loss of innocent life is a crime, period, especially if its done for the sake of a minority who DONT represent the majority view of the people in Northern Ireland."

Whether taking someone's life is a crime or not depends on how you define 'crime'. Your understanding of a crime may not be another's understanding of crime.
 
  • #79
A crime is something that is punishable by law. The IRA kill people within British jurisdiction; therefore, they follow British laws. I might be wrong on this but I heard that killing people is illegal in Britain :wink:.
 
  • #80
and in most countries i would assume.

My friends father aside. That was not what I was talking about. He was just one victim, but there are many other innocents which i was referring to.

I am glad we are starting to agree on things though, i would hate to make an enemy here :biggrin:
 
  • #81
Yes the same to you, jimmy. I do not over my dead body want to make enemies in here. I like you and IRA shall not get in the way. I accept your opinion. It is always nice with different opinions so that one is not blinded by one's own.
 
  • #82
Yeah, I agree. :smile:

I still have memories of the things we had to do in Germany. Every time we used the car we had to check that there were no bombs under it, I had to go to school in an military base because that was the safest place for children of soldiers. I also had to be able to lie convincingly in German if people asked what my dad's job was. No-one was allowed to know he was in the Army in case an IRA member was listening.
 
  • #83
Yes, it is truly a dirty war. The one part is no less guilty than the other. Still, I hold on to my stand that Northern Ireland should be part of Ireland and not occupied by British.

My condoles
 
  • #84
lol, the people of NI voted it...
 
  • #85
But the number of supporters has decreased...
 
  • #86
but the majority still want to be British...
 
  • #87
..but the number of supporters has decreased...

HAHAHAHAH! We will keep going like this forever... :D
 
  • #88
It doesn't matter how low support is. Majority still rules; that's how a referendum works. If people started to riot every time a vote didn't go their way, every democratic nation in the world would be in big trouble.
 
  • #89
and as me and ShawnD are in agreement, as he stated, majority rules. Now bow down and accept your fate HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA :devil: :devil:
 
  • #90
Oh, **** that.
 
  • #91
LOL! :biggrin: ok!
 
  • #92
That is what we call diplomacy.. :P
 
  • #93
mental note: don't piss of Norway
 
  • #94
Oh, and what is that supposed to mean?
 
  • #95
Well, if that is how you are diplomatic, I would hate to see you guys being UNdiplomatic! :biggrin:
 
  • #96
Ah! Case closed. Court adjourned.
 
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