PhoebeLasa said:
But the momentary co-moving inertial frames method is the only (SR) method that exactly agrees with the often-cited standard GR method ... both give the result that the rocket-twin says that the home-twin suddenly gets much older during the turnaround. Alternative SR methods that have been proposed don't agree with the standard GR method.
I'm not quite sure what your point is? The momentarily co-moving frames method is popular (deservedly so), but it's not the only method. You'll find some disscusion of Dolby & Gull's "radar time" on Physics Forums and the literature, for instance. See for instance
http://arxiv.org/abs/gr-qc/0104077 "On Radar Time and the Twin `Paradox".
In the present paper we recall the definition of ‘radar time’ (and related ‘radar distance’) and emphasise that this definition applies not just to inertial observers, but to any observer in any spacetime. We then use radar time to derive the hypersurfaces of simultaneity for a class of traveling twins, from the ‘Immediate Turn-around’ case, through the ‘Gradual Turn-around’ case, to the ‘Uniformly Accelerating’ case. (The
‘Immediate Turn-around’ and ‘Uniformly Accelerating’ cases are also discussed in Pauri et al.
We show that in all cases this definition assigns a unique time to any event with which Barbara can send and
receive signals,
Editorial note. It isn't obvious, but Barabara can NOT send and receive signals from all space-time events! To give a specific example, if Barbara accelerates at 1g, and Obe stays behind. If Babara leaves in the year 3000 as measured by Obe's calendear, Barbara will never receive a signal sent by Obe in year 3001 or later.
and that this assignment is independent of any choice of coordinates. We then demonstrate that brief periods of acceleration have negligible effect on the radar time assigned to distant events, in contrast with the sensitive dependence of the hypersurfaces implied by Figures 1 and 2. By viewing the situation in different coordinates we further demonstrate the coordinate independence of radar time,
and note that there is no observational difference between the interpretations in which the differential aging is ‘due to Barbara’s acceleration’ or ‘due to the gravitational field that Barbara sees because of this acceleration’.
So to summarize, while the momentarily co-moving frame method is popular (and deservedly so, though I didn't get into it's nice quantities), in some circumstances other methods such as Dolby & Gull's "radar simultaneity" might be better. In the abstract framework of things, the point is that simultaneity is relative, and different simultaneity conventions have different strengths and weaknesses.
Additionally, it's important to note that accelerating observers cannot receive signals from all of space-time, and this in many circumstances effectively prevents an accelerating observer from defining the notion of "at the same time" to certain events behind them, including events that happen at their point of departure after "a long enough time", due to the fact that the accelerating observer can't receive signals from these events as long as they keep accelerating.
Doby and Gull's method isn't an exception to this - while it has some good qualities, it can't handle the situation where Barabara doesn't receive signals from Obe, this is pointed out in the paper but not emphasized.