What do 'nerdy' guys like in girls?

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The discussion centers around the qualities that 'nerdy' boys find attractive in girls, with participants sharing their experiences and preferences. Many express that intelligence, a sense of humor, and kindness are key traits they admire. There's a consensus that nerdy guys often appreciate directness and are more likely to respond positively when approached by girls. Some participants mention that physical appearance becomes less important compared to personality traits as intelligence increases. A recurring theme is the desire for mutual interests, with some emphasizing the importance of ambition and open-mindedness. The conversation also touches on the challenges nerdy boys face in dating due to shyness and social skills, with advice suggesting that girls should show interest and engage in conversations about shared interests. Overall, the thread highlights a blend of humor and earnestness in exploring what nerdy boys seek in potential partners.
  • #31
Topher925 said:
And last, she has to be an atheist or at least agnostic. This one really disqualifies most girls but I can't deal with the religious propaganda anymore. I honestly have never met a girl that met all three of these qualities, which is why I haven't had a gf in the past couple years. If I met a girl that did, chances are that I would marry her.

Bit of a high order there don't you think Topher? :eek:

Is the atheist thing set in stone or is a girl who isn't officially atheist but doesn't really believe in god ok? Or a girl who is religious but doesn't throw the "propaganda" at you and keeps it to herself? This is coming from a non-religious guy and in no way is it an attack! I am just kinda curious.
 
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  • #32
Kurdt said:
Are you sure. I thought most nerdy guys would implode when that line was delivered.
They always looked like a deer caught in headlights for the first few seconds, but then they'd ask me where I wanted to go.

Except for one, a math nerd at Rice. He was drop dead gorgeous and didn't know it. He told me that he already had plans for Friday, so what about Saturday instead?
 
  • #33
MissSilvy said:
Let's turn the tables for a second: what qualities do 'nerdy' boys like in girls?

I love 'nerdy' boys and I'm very lucky that my school is quite science and tech focused. However, a lot of them are incredibly cute and endearing but very shy and give off mixed signals. With other guys, it's fairly straight forward but I know quite a few self-professed 'dorks' that I would go out to dinner with if only they'd ask.

There have been numerous threads on what girls like in guys, but now I'm asking the opposite question; what do smart guys like yourselves like in girls? If possible, I'd be interested in opinions on or from college-aged guys. Thanks!

('Sex' is not an answer. Nice try, PF but I'm looking for more subtle points :))

i think all you need do is show more than a casual interest. don't play games, just signal your interest with body and spoken language. first of all, smile and make eye contact. start a conversation and feign interest in his geek speak. once you've established he might be interested, break the touch barrier and start using some sexual innuendo in your speech and body language.

you chicks have it a lot easier than you realize, you know.
 
  • #34
Well-prepared women were sweet. There was a very tall, attractive, leggy blonde in my dining hall, who I'd see frequently. One day early in my freshman year (hers, too) I wandered over and asked if she minded if I ate my lunch with her. She pulled out the chair right next to her and said that she had been saving that seat for me. We got so close that we were inseperable. We had similar interests in art , music, poetry, and ended spending all our spare time together.
 
  • #35
NBAJam100 said:
Bit of a high order there don't you think Topher? :eek:

Is the atheist thing set in stone or is a girl who isn't officially atheist but doesn't really believe in god ok? Or a girl who is religious but doesn't throw the "propaganda" at you and keeps it to herself? This is coming from a non-religious guy and in no way is it an attack! I am just kinda curious.

Its a VERY high order. But I'm picky and I don't want to spend the time and the money with someone who I will have no future with again. It just isn't worth it.

Someone who isn't really an atheist and doesn't really believe in god is "agnostic", which I already said was ok. Its sort of like the first step towards atheism. If a girl does believe in god, then personally I believe that she will atomically be violating quality 1 along with quality 3.

I will probably never find anyone and die alone, but at least I will have time for my part time job as an international spy. :cool:

you chicks have it a lot easier than you realize, you know.

You can say that again.
 
  • #36
Topher925 said:
Someone who isn't really an atheist and doesn't really believe in god is "agnostic", which I already said was ok. Its sort of like the first step towards atheism. If a girl does believe in god, then personally I believe that she will atomically be violating quality 1 along with quality 3.

There are religious people who are intelligent and ambitious. I haven't met them yet but I have met ordinary people (~+3) who are religious and emotionally intelligent. They are extremely caring, nice, generous, and ethical, and never bring their faith in the conversations - all of them understand the meaning of faith and how it helps them dealing with their life problems. I have seen other too who think everyone but them is going hell :).
(I am agnostic between... but just wanted to point out that there are different kinds out there)
 
  • #37
I think nerdy guys like pretty girls who are somewhat intelligent (at the very least) and quirky.

This is what I've seen/heard from my super nerdy friends.

Personally, there is no pattern for what kind of girls I like. I swear my mind just picks at random.
EDIT: I should add that I'm not really nerdy.
 
  • #38
HUUGEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE cans.
 
  • #39
What a tupical guy answer, but there has to be more...
 
  • #40
I'm a geek and I like geeky girls. I just don't meet many unfortunately and they are usually taken.
The girl I dated whom I thought of as the perfect girl for me was a fangirl. She loved comic books, science fiction, fantasy, video games, and even played role playing games when she was younger. I knew I had hit the jackpot when one day she called me and said, "Would you like to go see the new Spiderman movie? Its ok if you don't. I can go by myself."
And there was the time that she was in a bad mood and I made her day by taking her to the arcade to play House of the Dead.

mcknia07 said:
What a tupical guy answer, but there has to be more...

I believe there is a thread somewhere, most likely locked, where Cy has more or less outlined his choice in dating criteria. Not much different than what he posted here. ;-p
 
  • #41
mcknia07 said:
What a tupical guy answer, but there has to be more...

HUGEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE ASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSss :smile:
 
  • #42
See, I knew there was more...:approve: But are you sure there is nothing more?! :rolleyes:
 
  • #43
After meeting several good-looking girls, who turned out to be stupid, un-cool, and etcetera, I decided that the only thing I would value on a girl is intelligence (first) and good-looking face (second), and I don't care about the body. However, I am afraid that I would not be able to have a long-lasting relationship with a girl who has no personal interest in physics (nothing to talk about), or believing in God (I wouldn't be able to fight the urge to make fun of her religion all the time). But that's my outlook only, so it might not apply to all of us. Good luck with hunting down nerdy guys, it shouldn't be hard, but shouldn't be very rewarding either.
 
  • #44
Now that's the motivation we all needed...where have you been all my life??!??!??
 
  • #45
mcknia07 said:
see, i knew there was more...:approve: But are you sure there is nothing more?! :rolleyes:

fake titsssssssss?
 
  • #46
Ahhh, then you shound't have any problems with finding a girl...well based on your criteria.
 
  • #47
Additional requirement I forgot to add: has to be someone within a 100-mile radius. I know because I had a painfully retarded internet relationship. These never end well.
 
  • #48
Crazy Tosser said:
Additional requirement I forgot to add: has to be someone within a 100-mile radius. I know because I had a painfully retarded internet relationship. These never end well.

You were also dating Jenna Jameson? She told me I was that 'special one' :sad:

Turns out 'she' was really a 40 year old middle aged white man.
 
  • #49
Ivan Seeking said:
Or nice people atheists?

Because they've watched nice guys finish first? Probably applies to girls too.
 
  • #50
Disregarding the "nerdy" part I like the following things:

Smile and pretty face
Sweet nice, caring personality
Self confidence, but not too much, just the right amount, lol
Attractive body, but this ties into the self confidence part strongly
Common interests, likes/dislikes, etc
Thats it in a very quickly hacked out summary.
 
  • #51
Did I mention big jugs?
 
  • #52
Is that like number one on your list Cy?
 
  • #53
mcknia07 said:
Is that like number one on your list Cy?

It's right below knockers, but right above fun bags.
 
  • #54
Do you show girls your list right on the first date, or do they have to qualify to go on the first date...:rolleyes:
 
  • #55
mcknia07 said:
Do you show girls your list right on the first date, or do they have to qualify to go on the first date...:rolleyes:

Oh, I show them something that's not on the list. Wink wink, nod nod...hey why are you handcuffing me officer?
 
  • #56
Oh ok..and I bet they all run away right after that one...

Every girl, love a naughty man...
 
  • #57
How you doin? (head bob)
 
  • #58
Greatest pick-up line ever...works wonders everytime
 
  • #59
binzing said:
Disregarding the "nerdy" part I like the following things:

Smile and pretty face
Sweet nice, caring personality
Self confidence, but not too much, just the right amount, lol
Attractive body, but this ties into the self confidence part strongly
Common interests, likes/dislikes, etc
Thats it in a very quickly hacked out summary.

Go away, non-nerd. You are not welcome in this thread.
mcknia07, ignore this advice. An ever-lasting smile and a "sweet" (eww) nice and "caring" (nobody cares, that's right) personality won't get you very far in nerd world.
 
  • #60
Why am I ignoring that advise? I don't get it.
 

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