MissSilvy said:
There have been numerous threads on what girls like in guys, but now I'm asking the opposite question; what do smart guys like yourselves like in girls? If possible, I'd be interested in opinions on or from college-aged guys. Thanks!
('Sex' is not an answer. Nice try, PF but I'm looking for more subtle points
1) I'm sure physical attractiveness is not what you want to hear, but it's the truth. Physical attractiveness matters a lot. I personally like thin girls with small breasts, lively eyes and ever-present smiles. I like thin sexy legs and dark hair. I'm also really attracted to perfect complexion. Now that that is out of the way with...
2) No crack-pot beliefs. Nothing is more unattractive to me than religion, conspiracy theories, belief in pseudo-science, etc. A girl could be perfect in every way but if I find out, on the altar, that she is convinced (and can't be unconvinced) that intelligent design is correct, or that the moon landing was a hoax, or that aliens have visited Earth, then we are done.
3) Illogical behavior, lack of self confidence, over-emotionalism and neediness are huge turn offs. I want to support my girl through her troubles, but if she reduces herself to a whining crying baby I immediately lose all sympathy. I also like to help give advice, but if she calls me a million times asking what to do on every little thing as if she's not capable of making a decision on her own, then I also lose interest. Basically, you need to be an intelligent and independent person to date one.
4) Have a sense of adventure and be a risk taker. It's hard to find a girl that appreciates nerdiness but also isn't afraid to leave the computer room and do something utterly ridiculous and completely illegal
just because it's fun. You don't have to take risks at every turn, but don't be a slave to the arbitrary rules of societary norms. Don't tell me you don't want to do something because its unusual. I'm a nerd and we don't care about what's socially acceptable because we all stopped fighting that battle years ago.
5) Have your own goals. Don't try to ride my coat tails. I want to think of my woman as someone who has a future and is going to make herself into a better person with each passing year, not a burnout who has nothing to look forward to and is just going to get older, fatter, depressed and emotionally dependent on me as she leaches more and more of my money.
6) Be very good at something. We nerds are usually very good at several things, and it's hard for us to respect people that are not good at anything. The thing you are good at must not be something I'm also better at! It must be something complimentary to my abilities that allows me to respect you and learn from you also.
7) Don't try to drag me into awkward social situations filled with people that share none of my interests. ie, I don't want to go to dance clubs. Not ever. I'd rather be alone surfing the internet.