"In fact, if you look at the BCS paper itself, the theory is independent of phonons as the mediator of the pair. It just happened that they used phonons as an example. You could substitute phonons with any bosonic mechanism in that theory and it will still work.."
Thanks for clarifying that; most of these articles seem to make one think phonon mediation is necessary for BCS and use isotope effect as a unique justification. My opinion is that the isotope effect may not be unique to phonon interaction, other underlying mass dependent correlations may be possible.
"It is because of these strong spin correlation that spin fluctuation/magnon is one of the leading contender of the pairing mechanism for these material."
Since you appear to be very knowledgeable in this area (spin fluctuation is my area of weakest understanding) please give a simple explanation of spin fluctuation and how it can account for the pairing state.
And secondly, please explain how angular resolved photo emission is used to validate that mechanism.