Wow! You have put a lot of effort into this. I hope it eventually brings you to a better understanding.
You can be quite sure you will not find any way around Newton's 3rd law, conservation of momentum and of angular momentum. This conservation of momentum principle is one of the most fundamental in Physics.
Doug Brown said:
... can I calculate the exact Newton's Third Law force operating on both masses ...
Whether you can actually calculate the value of this force, depends on how you cause it, or on what measurements you can make. The force is exactly the same size and opposite direction on each body. That applies whether it is a linear push or a rotational torque.
so I can then select ##m_2## to exceed this so ##m_2## itself acts as a constraint (exceeding Newton's Third Law force) needed to hold ##m_2## so ##m_1## spins. In detail I need to exceed the Newton's Third Law force so I must calculate it exactly in terms of ##m_1## and ##m_2##.
No way! You will never break Newtons 3rd law.
Hypothesis: the split of motor "spin" between the two is
##M \equiv m_1 + m_2##
##f_1 \equiv m_1/M## is the fraction of total motor "spin" ##m_1## receives
##f_2 \equiv m_2/M## is the fraction of total motor "spin" ##m_2## receives
So for a ratio ##\rho \equiv m2/m1 = 2## then ##f_1=\frac{1}{3}## and ##f_2=\frac{2}{3}##
Good intuition, but not quite right.
Both objects acquire equal but opposite momentum (whether angular or linear.) So if "spin" means angular momentum, then they both get equal amounts irrespective of their mass.
BUT if "spin" means angular speed, then it is shared according to their moments of inertia and hence according to their masses, because the moment of inertia is proportional to mass. In that case, you are near but still no coconut, because it is the opposite way round. The smaller mass object must rotate faster and the larger mass rotate object slower, so that they both have the same size of angular momentum.
## | angular\ momentum_1 | = ω_1 I_1 = ω_1 k m_1 ##
## | angular\ momentum_2 | = ω_2 I_2 = ω_2 k m_2 ##
So ## ω_1 k m_1 = ω_2 k m_2 \ \ or \ ω_1 m_1 = ω_2 m_2##
Then ## \frac {ω_1} {ω_1 + ω_2} = \frac {ω_1} {ω_1 + w_1 \frac{m_1} {m_2}} = \frac {1} {1 + \frac{m_1} {m_2} }= \frac {m_2}{m_2 + m_1}##
BTW - Anyone - How do I stop Latex making the writing so small when the expressions get complicated?
So now as ##m_1## is fixed and ##m_2## increases, then ##\rho## increases, and ##m_2## receives a larger and larger fraction of the motor "spin" according to this tabulated ratio analysis (while ##m_1## receives a smaller and smaller fraction of the motor spin force).
Well, the opposite way round. Notice, one gets a smaller and smaller fraction, but never zero.
I hope that's a bit helpful. I'm giving up on the rest of your detailed work for now. You can find more info on the web about angular momentum, but please don't try to fight conservation of momentum and Newton's laws. That's just a waste of effort.