edoarad said:
just want to be sure, when you say acceleration you mean velocity right? i mean, the farther something is the faster it is (if at rest)?
Be careful. When people talk about accelerated expansion they aren't talking about anything moving thru space.
It refers to the scalefactor a(t). Look up "Friedman equations" in Wiki. The scalefactor is a timevarying parameter that goes into computing spatial distances and it increases with time---governed by the Fr. eqns.
It doesn't say anything is moving. a(t) increasing simply means distances are increasing. That's to be expected---geometry is dynamic.
The current rate of increase is a'(t) and the rate of increase of the rate of increase is a"(t). You OK with Freshman calculus notation for first and second derivatives?
The Fr.eqns. show you how the first derivative and the second derivative of a(t) are determined. They are derived from the main Einstein eqn of GR, but represent a big simplification.
All that people mean by saying accelerated expansion is that the second deriv. of the scalefactor, namely a"(t), is positive. They're not talking about the Hubble law thing that larger distances increase at a higher rate (that's just a simple proportionality, not what is meant by acceleration.)
The reason why the rate of expansion a'(t) would be decreasing (except for the dark energy term Lambda) is obvious from looking at the first Friedman equation, the one that determines a"(t). It is clear that a" would be negative except for the Lambda term.
Look at the equation in Wiki.
It is generally a bad idea to try to think about this in Newtonian terms----don't picture galaxies moving, having momentum, being slowed down by some force.
What you said about balance is exactly right. To a good approximation all the galaxies are at rest with respect to CMB, and no galaxy feels a force in any direction. The pull in all directions is approximately balanced.
So Newtonian (motion-type) mechanics is a bad approach. What you need is Friedman mechanics

Look at those equations, determining the evolution of a(t) the scalefactor. Instead of trying to think in terms of Newton's equations.
There is a phony derivation of Friedman model from Newtonian, but it is misleading: gives a false sense of comprehension. And makes people have trouble with the coordinate system that mainstream cosmology uses, and with the fact that distances typically increase faster than c, and (like you said) the approximate balance of gravity pull, and the idea of CMB rest---the Newton pseudo-explanation is rife with potential contradictions so it's better avoided.
edoarad said:
Each galaxy (in avarage) doesn't "feel" gravity towards any specific direction so why should the expansion be slowing down due to gravity? even if the expansion is some sort of force, i don't see why it needs to use energy to overcome gravity, which is at balance...
This is good thinking!
Look at the second Fr. equation here
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friedmann_equations
The one that determines a"(t)/a(t), do you see it?
Do you see that it shows that a" must be negative unless there is a positive Lambda term?
Thats why (without Lambda) expansion rate would have to be declining---the answer to your thread title question.
And why are the equations trusted? Because they are derived from the Einstein eqn of GR, in the way the Wiki article says. And the GR equation is our theory of how geometry evolves. That is, our theory of how geometry/gravity behaves. It has been repeatedly tested and it is exquisitely precise. There isn't anything more basic than geometry, so there isn't anything more basic than GR.
Like, GR is the reason that the angles of a triangle add up to nearly 180 degrees (except for very small gravity effects that Euclid didn't know about.)
It is the reason that geometry is very nearly like what you learned in High School. GR is the reason why parallel lines almost never meet, and why Pythagoras. It is the reason for (approximate) flatness. And why the Earth presses on the soles of your feet.
It has passed all the experimental/observational tests so far and as soon as they find some discrepancy they will refine it and get GR version 1.1. But that hasn't happened yet. So for the time being we take it as right. (And Newton as not right).