The fact that particles may or may not be able to be stretched is beside the point.
In the example of the rope you use, you did not say on which part of the wire the forces are acting. If one force is acting on one end of the wire, and the other force on the other end, then yes it will be stretched.
But, in this case, the forces act on
the same point of the wire! So the wire is not stretched.
Of course, there are forces acting on one end of the wire, and other forces on the other end. But if you look at one point on the wire (it doesn't even matter if we take that point to be an atom, or a proton, or a hypothetical position in space), the net force on that point will be ZERO.
This can easily be proven using Newton's laws of gravitation, and is valid for
any point inside a hollow sphere. So, every point on your wire will have NO net force acting on it, and subsequently, it will not be stretched.
EDIT
Here's a picture that will hopefully clarify it for you:
In (a), there is no net force on the chain / wire. But the chain is still stretched, because the two equal but opposite forces don't act on the same position in the chain.
In (b), there is still no net force on the chain / wire. But now, the chain is not stretched. Each particle / point in space feels two equal but opposite forces. There is no net force on any particle / point in space.In a hollow sphere, you have situation (b) (except that the forces acting on your are uniformly around you in a sphere, instead of just two forces horizontally; but that's a bit hard to draw ;) ).