Buckethead said:
ACCELERATION HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. Don't anyone try and change my mind on this or I will surely go out of my mind.
Shrug. We all lose our minds and some point on the way to understanding relativity, or it feels like it.

It doesn't last.
Acceleration does have something to do with it, because acceleration is what causes the change in frame. Acceleration is not directly a cause of time dilation, but in so far as accelerating is how you change frames, you can't say it has NOTHING to do with it. You just have to follow the nature of the association -- which means focusing on relative velocities and how they change.
1. As ship 1 passes Earth on the way out, it sees the clock on Earth moving slower and the Earth sees the clock on the ship moving slower and each will continue to measure the others clock moving slower by the available Earth-ship communications as the two separate.
Keep in mind the difference between "seeing" the clock, where you have to consider the change in how long it takes for light to reach you as well as dilation effects. The dilation effect refers not to what you SEE the other clock doing, but to what you infer the other clock is doing "at the same time" as your clock.
Hence, a clock moving at 60% light speed relative to you is running 1.25 times more slowly, no matter its direction. But what you SEE of the other clock is something else again.
If the other clock is moving tangentially to you, then the distance to the clock remains unchanged, and you see the ticking proceeding 1.25 times more slowly.
If the other clock is moving away from you, you see the ticking twice as slowly, because the signals are taking longer and longer to reach you.
If the other clock is moving towards you, you see it ticking twice as fast! It is still running more slowly by the same dilation factor of 1.25, but because the signals take less and less time to reach you, you actually see them speeded up by a factor of two, rather than slowed down.
In each case, the dilation factor remains the same, and depends only on velocity.
2. The observations made in the above conclusions are not "real" events since the idea of "simultaneity" has no real meaning at this time. In other words we are truly only talking about "observations". Another way to say this might be, that both clocks really are moving more slowly with respect to the other, but it's irrelevant since no real syncing can be done until the test is over at which time only one will have aged more slowly (the ship in this case).
No. Simultaneous DOES have a meaning. The point to grasp is that the meaning is relative. That is, events that are simultaneous in one frame may not be simultaneous in another.
You CAN draw conclusions about simultaneity, and they are meaningful.
3. At the point in time when the two ships pass each other to sync clocks, the encoded time of the Earth clock from ship 1 and ship 2 is the same (since they are getting the same time code message) but because ship 2 is going in the opposite direction Earth appears to be much further away, so ship 2 calculates that the actual time of Earth is much later than the calculated time of ship 1.
Yes.
4. Ship 2 will continue to notice the Earth clock is moving slower but because of the calculated later time in step 3, when the ship arrives at Earth the Earth time will actually be later.
Both ships with infer that the clock on Earth is moving more slowly. But the one approaching will SEE it sped up. Both ships will agree on what time Earth clocks will show when the approaching ship gets to Earth. Of course, the (x,t) location of this arrival event will differ for the inertial frame of the different ships.
Did I get all that right so far?
Point 3 was the important one, I think.
One additional question. I had learned that if you travel to a star 10 l.y. away near the speed of light that you will observe that you arrive in less than 10 years. Is that true or not? I thought it was, but if the observed distance to a star you are traveling to seems to move further away the faster you go, it appears to all cancel out and you can never really get very far no matter how fast you go.
Got that one backwards. As you move faster, the distance between Earth and the star CONTRACTS, not lengthens.
Eg. If a ship approaches a star 10ly away (from Earth's perspective) at 60% light speed, then it will take about 16 years and eight months (16.666 years) for the ship to get there (though of course it takes 10 years more to see the arrival).
From the point of view of the ship, the distance is contracted to 8 light years, and at 60% light speed (the speed the star is approaching) it will take 13 years and 4 months. (13.3333 years.)
The effects of relativity, if you could travel at sufficiently high relative velocities, allow you to travel all over the galaxy in as little experienced time as you like. From your own perspective as the traveler, all the distances between stars would be reduced.
Cheers -- sylas