The "cross-multiply" thing you vaguely remember is probably the common way of teaching the addition of fractions... $$\frac{a}{b}+\frac{c}{d} = \frac{ad+cb}{bd}$$ ... actual "cross multiply" has a different meaning in algebra.
You should be able to work out the various rules from the multiplication ones already given above... i.e. $$\frac{a}{c}+\frac{b}{c} = \frac{1}{c}(a+b) = \frac{a+b}{c}$$ ... which you've seen before written in the other order.
If the numerators are different: $$\frac{a}{b}+\frac{c}{d}$$... you need to make them the same. You do this by multiplying each term by 1 like this: $$\frac{a}{b}\frac{x}{x}+\frac{c}{d}\frac{y}{y}$$ ... see how that doesn't change the result?
You have to pick your x and y so that bx=dy ... which means that the denominators are the same. There's an infinite number of possibilities to choose from, and some choices are more helpful than others, so you may as well pick the one that makes the math easy. If you play around with it you'll see that the general case is x=d and y=b ... but there are shortcuts where b is a whole multiple of d etc.
Subtraction is the same as addition by a negative number.
Division is the same as multiplication by a fraction.
That's pretty much all of arithmetic.
Algebra manipulating the form that an expression takes to make some calculation easier. At your level that means multiplying out brackets - maybe implied brackets.
i.e. It is easier to see how to integrate ##x^2+2x+1## than ##(x+1)^2## even though they are the same thing. So - instead of doing what's in the brackets first like you learned in "order-of-operations" lessons, it actually makes life easier to multiply out the brackets first... this time.
Books and videos are not it... though there is an
Algebra for Dummies (nothing wrong with needing help - it's not asking for it that's stupid) what you have to do is lots and lots of examples.