Following up on Dale’s post #43 suggesting that you simplify the problem as much as possible. Here is a much simpler problem I worked on in the past. I believe it contains most of the geometric consequences that are your concern. There are 4 pictures.
Picture 1:
The initial conditions as observed within a train car. Train tracks are moving at constant velocity horizontally beneath. A barbell in the car has just been released from a fixture in the ceiling. To avoid the complexity of gravity/acceleration, the tracks, car and barbell are in a gravity free environment and the barbell is given some constant downward velocity by some mechanism not shown.
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Picture 2:
The barbell has fallen vertically and landed on the floor of the car. No bouncing allowed.
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Picture 3:
The initial conditions as observed from the train tracks. The car is moving horizontally and is width contracted. The barbell is moving diagonally and is tilted. (There are other smaller geometry changes to the barbell too).
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Picture 4:
The lead end of the barbell hits the floor first. This is not a paradox. It’s just a glaring example of relativity of simultaneity.
View attachment 204307The purpose of the exercise is to think about what forces are transmitted through the bar. The bar itself is one of those mythical weightless, frictionless, perfectly rigid things.
According to the observer in the car, when it hits the floor, equal vertical forces are applied to stop the ends of the bar. The bar itself, being weightless, stops when the ends stop. Note that there is no way to generate a horizontal force so no forces are transmitted axially through the bar.
But the observer on the tracks might think that there will be some axial forces transmitted from the lead end to the far end of the bar. That would be a paradox. One inertial observer concludes that forces are present in a body and another inertial observer does not. Fortunately, a careful examination will show that is not the case.