So it's a topic that you are tired of hearing about. What is demonstrably correct, and seems to be agreed on by all experts, is the quote from the field theory textbook:
"The correspondence between the integrals that make up the Dyson series and Feynman diagrams is perfectly precise and well-defined. However, it is customary to go further and think of the Feynman diagrams as schematic pictures of physical processes, and here the interpretation acquires a more imaginative character. ... They are, in short, the infamous virtual particles that are so ubiquitous in physicists' discourse. In the final analysis, the only existence they possesses for certain is as picturesque ways of thinking about the ingredients of the integrals in the Dyson series."
Now, what does this mean? Apparently, physics can now be divided into two categories, ontological constructs that are actually real, and those that are "picturesque ways of thinking about the ingredients of the integrals." Just stop for a moment and think about this interesting dichotomy we have within physics, and you see how quickly it falls apart. In actuality, anything that is a picturesque way of thinking about the ingredients of integrals is just precisely what is meant by ontology in physics. But yes, you are tired of the question.
Also, the suggestion that descriptions that take virtual particles seriously, or more correctly, as seriously as any of the many ontological crutches that we physicists routinely adopt without apology, is just pop sci, might seem insulting to well-known physics pedagogs like
John Baez. Consider what he has to say about virtual particles:
http://math.ucr.edu/home/baez/physics/Quantum/virtual_particles.html. Is he saying they are really real? Of course not, no physicist ever needs to say that about anything but the outcomes of measurements. Is he saying they have as good a claim to existence as any of the many other ontological elements that are invented to help us understand the observable phenomena we encounter? Yes, I think he is saying that, but only in the usual "virtual", ephemeral, or too-short-lived-to-call-real sense of existence. So they are ephemeral, or they are just terms in an expansion, what difference does it make? Why is it so important to reject them as fantasy? Pedagogy is more of an art than anything else in physics. This doesn't make anyone wrong about virtual particles, it makes the issue quite nebulous, and perhaps that's what it is supposed to be when we are at the edges of what we can really describe.