Are Height Differences Impacting Your Relationship?

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The discussion centers around the dynamics of relationships where one partner is taller than the other, particularly focusing on male partners being shorter than their female counterparts or vice versa. Participants express varied opinions on height differences, with many asserting that height does not significantly impact relationship quality. Some share personal experiences of dating taller partners without issues, while others note societal perceptions and self-consciousness regarding height. The conversation touches on the idea that confidence and mutual respect are more critical than physical attributes. Additionally, there are humorous exchanges about the logistics of affection and the subjective nature of attraction, emphasizing that personal preferences vary widely. The discussion also highlights cultural differences in height perceptions and the importance of personality over physical traits in romantic relationships.
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Any male have a female partner taller than them? Or female have a male partner shorter than them? If so what is it like? Is the relationship not as good?

How do males and females feel in these situations or relationsips?
 
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An inch or two taller, but I've never dated say a 6+ foot tall basketball player ;) Keep in mind that I'm only 5'10ish. I'd say that height doesn't matter, but it all depends on what your attracted to.
 
Shortarses such as myself can't afford to be so choosy. What blinkin difference does height make?! If she's too tall to kiss, we can just stand on a Yellow Pages or two.
 
brewnog said:
Shortarses such as myself can't afford to be so choosy. What blinkin difference does height make?! If she's too tall to kiss, we can just stand on a Yellow Pages or two.
Practical is he. :smile:

I've been attracted to taller women, and I've seen a married couple where the wife was 8-10 inches taller than the husband.

It doesn't matter.

In my earliest years of university, there was one lady athlete who played basketball and volleyball. She was very attractive, and she ended up dating a guy who was about the same height. What bothered me most was her posture - the way she held her head with her neck leaning forward - so she didn't appear so tall. I imagine she felt self-conscious about her height. I would have wished she hold herself tall and straight. In her elderly years, that posture would likely be problematic as the vertebrae reduce in density and the connective tissue weaken. I see many elderly people stooping with excessive bending/bowing of the vertebrae, and it is largely avoidable IMO.
 
Luckily, I'm not attracted to taller women. Couldn't afford it, anyways. :-p
 
radou said:
Luckily, I'm not attracted to taller women. Couldn't afford it, anyways. :-p

I can't afford to be attracted to women :cry:

I wouldn't be bothered by a taller female partner.
 
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Kurdt said:
I can't afford to be attracted to women :cry:

How do you mean? Is it cheaper to take a male out on a date? :biggrin:
 
radou said:
How do you mean? Is it cheaper to take a male out on a date? :biggrin:

Well I meant I've got no cash and women are expensive, but perhaps a man would be cheaper on a date, I don't know.
 
Kurdt said:
Well I meant I've got no cash and women are expensive, but perhaps a man would be cheaper on a date, I don't know.

Well, depends what kind of women we're talking about here. :wink:

If you want my opinion on the same general level, I'd say women are definitely not expensive. :smile:
 
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I date a woman who is 2 inches taller (easy to do when you're 5'5) and for the most part it's not a problem. I wouldn't say that it adversely affects the relationship, though it can play havoc with the logistics of displaying one's affection.
 
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5'5?
5'10??
I'll never figure out you Americans and your measurement system...
How much is 180cm?Is it considered tall ?
Here 180cm is just almost average, Almost everyone I know is either just below 180 or more..
 
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ziad1985 said:
5'5?
5'10??
I'll never figure out you Americans and your measurement system...
How much is 180cm?Is it considered tall ?
Here 180cm is just below average, Almost everyone I know is either just below 180 or more..

180 cm = 70 " = 5' 10''. That might be considered tall. I wouldn't - but then tall is relative :biggrin: .

However, I think average height for women is about 5' 6'' (167 cm) and for men about 5' 10'' +/- 1'' (178 +/- 2.5 cm).
 
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radou said:
Luckily, I'm not attracted to taller women. Couldn't afford it, anyways. :-p

Hahahaha, same here and thank god in my country taller women are rare!.

I'm 5'11''.
 
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I'm tall, so I would want a girl that is slightly on the taller size, but not one that is the same height as me. A girl that is 6' would be pushing it. Only once did I see a girl as tall as me while in California, it was not attractive.
 
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So astronuc '' means inches?
and the '?
But I never considered myself tall, well unless comparing with a girl.
 
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Sorry ziad, yes '' means inches - sort of a units short hand.

5' 5" means 5 feet, 5 inches or 65 inches.

5' 10" means 5 feet, 10 inches or 70 inches.

I much prefer metric.
 
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I'm biased, the only time I used other then metric is the 8 pounds dumbbells I got when I was 16 years old, so anything else is useless, or dumb for me.
But the idea is, well for me I'm a science guy, and science deals with metric, I never heard of a photon wave length of 10^-9inches, or a planet with 10^6 feet radius.
Ah, Never mind just babbling.
 
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I use both metric and English at work, so I have to quickly convert back and forth.

In the US nuclear industry, we have mixed unit kW/ft (linear power or linear heat generation rate), while the rest of the world uses, kW/m or W/cm.

I prefer using C or K for temperature.

And I absolutely detest BTU, BTU/ft2-hr or other similar units.

Oh, and I occasionally have to work with 'mils' (0.001 inch) or micro-inches! Arggghhh! It should be microns or micrometers!
 
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I wonder what is the opinion of the female.
 
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ILEW said:
I wonder what is the opinion of the female.

In general, they love tall men.
 
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radou said:
In general, they love tall men.

From you said it could also be true that they love shorter men as well.

But how are they put off by shorter men compared to how much men are put off by taller women? Assuming similar magnitudes of shorter and taller.
 
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I had taller GFs in HS9(+2-3") and later in college (+4-6") with no problems. I played music throughout college and studied poetry and English literature as well. My tall escorts appreciated the respect with which I treated them and they reciprocated. Often, ladies who were tall early would hide their height by scootching down, tipping their heads down, etc. That is crap! Lovely ladies are still lovely if they are tall, willowy girls, and they need to be appreciated.
 
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turbo-1 said:
I had taller GFs in HS9(+2-3") and later in college (+4-6") with no problems. I played music throughout college and studied poetry and English literature as well. My tall escorts appreciated the respect with which I treated them and they reciprocated. Often, ladies who were tall early would hide their height by scootching down, tipping their heads down, etc. That is crap! Lovely ladies are still lovely if they are tall, willowy girls, and they need to be appreciated.

Is this 2-3 & 4-6 inches or centimeters?
 
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ILEW said:
Is this 2-3 & 4-6 inches or centimeters?
Centimeters? No!, Inches.
 
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Size doesn't matter! (It had to be said.)

As for people slouching to hide their height, I've seen tall men doing that too. They'd look so much better and healthier if they didn't slouch, and I think the slouching gives away their lack of self-confidence, which is far more of a turn-off than their height ever might be.
 
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I'd probably only date girls that are shorter than I. Shorter girls are cute.
 
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JasonRox said:
I'd probably only date girls that are shorter than I. Shorter girls are cute.

amen to that!
 
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It's the whole sexual dimorphism thing.
 
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turbo-1 said:
Centimeters? No!, Inches.

Half a foot is quite significant.
 
  • #30
I'm only 5'3", so it's unusual to find a man shorter than I am. I did date one guy shorter than me once, it really didn't matter.

I prefer men that are around 6 feet tall, 6'3" to 6'4" is about my limit, without heels, I'm looking into their stomach.
 
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Yeah, that's why I don't like short women Evo. I don't want to get on my knees to give her a hug. I won't date a woman that's too short.

Height does matter, a lot. I am 6'-4". So some people here might consider a tall girl what I could call a normal height. But a girl at 6' is pushing it.

The worst is a tall girl that's huge, not fat, but big...big like a man...shudder. I've seen some girls that are 6' and 180lbs...yikes.
 
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Cyrus, in my sophomore year in college I lived with a lovely lady that was taller than I was (~4" or so), and was a lifeguard with an athletic figure and a baby-face. We shared a love of music, English Romantic literature, and philosophy. She was several years older than I was, and she was prepared to move on when she graduated. I was prepared, too, but saddened and wistful when she was gone. The night we met, I had waded through deep snow to a local watering-spot and sat myself down near the jukebox and that long,tall cutie came over to my table and asked if she could sit with me if she bought me a drink. Duh! I didn't need a great pickup line to be impressed by that lady - she pretty much had me when she smiled at me on her way to my table.
 
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turbo-1 said:
Cyrus, in my sophomore year in college I lived with a lovely lady that was taller than I was (~4" or so), and was a lifeguard with an athletic figure and a baby-face. We shared a love of music, English Romantic literature, and philosophy. She was several years older than I was, and she was prepared to move on when she graduated. I was prepared, too, but saddened and wistful when she was gone. The night we met, I had waded through deep snow to a local watering-spot and sat myself down near the jukebox and that long,tall cutie came over to my table and asked if she could sit with me if she bought me a drink. Duh! I didn't need a great pickup line to be impressed by that lady - she pretty much had me when she smiled at me on her way to my table.

It seems like you are popular with females. It is because your interests are shared by many females?
 
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I have to say, by and large the best looking girls I have seen are not tall, but average height. Most tall girls have flat chests and asses.

Personally, I think a nice face is better than a nice body because most people can work out and have a nice body, but you have to be born with an attractive face. A nice face is 1/million. I am not saying I would never go out with a tall girl, but if I had to take my pick I would go with the shorter one 9/10.
 
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cyrusabdollahi said:
I have to say, by and large the best looking girls I have seen are not tall, but average height. Most tall girls have flat chests and asses.

Personally, I think a nice face is better than a nice body because most people can work out and have a nice body, but you have to be born with an attractive face. A nice face is 1/million. I am not saying I would never go out with a tall girl, but if I had to take my pick I would go with the shorter one 9/10.

are you sure we ain't brothers?

I agree 100%.
 
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I already said were brothers a while ago. Dont you pay attention!??
 
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cyrusabdollahi said:
I already said were brothers a while ago. Dont you pay attention!??

Hahahhaha :smile:
 
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cyrusabdollahi said:
I have to say, by and large the best looking girls I have seen are not tall, but average height. Most tall girls have flat chests and asses.

Personally, I think a nice face is better than a nice body because most people can work out and have a nice body, but you have to be born with an attractive face. A nice face is 1/million. I am not saying I would never go out with a tall girl, but if I had to take my pick I would go with the shorter one 9/10.

How tall is tall that you describe?
 
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Best height, 5'8"-5'10"

Anything lower than 5'8" is too short for me, because that's getting close to a foot height difference.

You are asking a lot of questions about relationships...you BETTER NOT start another "I need help dating" thread or I'm going to find where you live and throw your monitor out your window.

http://www.abc.net.au/newcastle/stories/Bang_m1181753.jpg
 
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cyrusabdollahi said:
Best height, 5'8"-5'10"

Anything lower than 5'8" is too short for me, because that's getting close to a foot height difference.

Wow in NZ that would be counted as above avergae height most females here are about 5'6"
Umm I've never dated/kissed or even hugged a guy shorter than me theyve always been slightly or a lot taller (I tend to go for tall guys not sure why that is). But its not that difficult finding guys taller than you when you are about 5'4"
 
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cyrusabdollahi said:
You are asking a lot of questions about relationships...you BETTER NOT start another "I need help dating" thread or I'm going to find where you live and throw your monitor out your window.

:smile:

I admit it's addictive but that is how we are 'designed'.
 
  • #42
ILEW said:
I wonder what is the opinion of the female.

If a guy were a few inches/centimeters shorter than me, I really wouldn't care about the height difference.
 
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cyrusabdollahi said:
I have to say, by and large the best looking girls I have seen are not tall, but average height. Most tall girls have flat chests and asses.

Personally, I think a nice face is better than a nice body because most people can work out and have a nice body, but you have to be born with an attractive face. A nice face is 1/million.

Every guy knows this.

Anyways, I'm 5'11, so basically 5'3 to like 5'9 is good for me. I think I would pick the shorter girl everytime.
 
  • #44
ILEW said:
It seems like you are popular with females. It is because your interests are shared by many females?
She couldn't have known my interests when she approached me. I am not pushy or even gregarious, and I probably gave her a smile and a polite nod when I entered the room - at most. I guess I am non-threatening/approachable...it sure isn't because of my good looks. :smile:
 
  • #45
I am 26 and 184 tall. My wilfe is 17 and 186 so she will grow about 3 cm more...
 
  • #46
Your wife is 17?Where do you live?
 
  • #47
I am Greek and she is Australian.
 
  • #48
JasonRox said:
I'd probably only date girls that are shorter than I. Shorter girls are cute.

I second that.

Monique said:
If a guy were a few inches/centimeters shorter than me, I really wouldn't care about the height difference.

Would 10 centimeters qualify as "a few"? :-p
 
  • #49
newp175 said:
I am 26 and 184 tall. My wilfe is 17 and 186 so she will grow about 3 cm more...

The biggest problem with a large age difference is that conversations may be a bit awakard or at least not very constructive. Both parties may have a hard time understanding each other.
 
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She is smarter and more mature than all the people I know combined.
 

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