nortonian said:
As far as I can tell dark matter doesn't fit in with any theory at all,...
I think that is wrong. It already fits in with GR, as I explained--and there are various ways DM could fit in with some modest extension of Standard Model. We simply do not know which will turn out to be right.
If you are really interested in learning something about what DM could turn out to be, then you should read this paper by Marco Drewes:
http://arxiv.org/abs/arXiv:1303.6912
The Phenomenology of Right Handed Neutrinos
Marco Drewes
(Submitted on 27 Mar 2013)
Neutrinos are the only particles in the Standard Model of particle physics that have only been observed with left handed chirality to date. If right handed neutrinos exist, they could be responsible for several phenomena that have no explanation within the Standard Model, including neutrino oscillations, the baryon asymmetry of the universe,
dark matter and dark radiation. After a pedagogical introduction, we review recent progress in the phenomenology of right handed neutrinos. We in particular discuss the mass ranges suggested by hints for neutrino oscillation anomalies and dark radiation (eV), sterile neutrino dark matter scenarios (keV) and experimentally testable theories of baryogenesis (GeV to TeV). We summarize constraints from theoretical considerations, laboratory experiments, astrophysics and cosmology for each of these.
Comments: Invited review for the International Journal of Modern Physics E.
You see, Norton, this is ONE thing DM could turn out to be. It has a good chance of being the right one, I think. There is a GAP in the Standard Model catalog of particles. All the other particles except neutrinos exist in two versions (called right and left handed). If you look at the layout of basic particles you see a row missing where the righthand-type neutrinos should be, you could almost PREDICT that they should turn up. But they have not been seen yet.
Neutrinos are very hard to detect because they do not have charge and they do not interact with light and they pass through most matter with hardly any interacting or colliding.
the article by Marco Drewes explains how if this kind of neutrino were found it would solve several puzzles including about Dark Matter. But not just that. Several other puzzles as well.
It is a fairly simple article to read, written as a review (current status report) for wider audience. Not just for specialists.
Drewes is a worldclass expert on this, and he has also coauthored with Shaposhnikov who I consider one of the great living physicists. I would urge anyone who is really interested in DM and the Standard Model to have a look at least at the Introduction (at the beginning) and the Conclusions (at the end) and anything else you can understand---and take it seriously.
We don't know for certain that the righthand neutrino is the correct explanation, but it would fit in just fine with both GR and the Standard Model, and it has a
reasonable chance of turning out to be the correct solution.