How to Cope with a Series of Bad Days?

[Huckleberry]

I've been having a series of really bad days. Nothing seems to be going right and major things seem to be going wrong. My aunt died a little over a week ago. I have an uncle who will be losing his feet to diabetes. He had to put down his two horses, which he has had for years. I had an oral report to give today and I totally blew it. I don't like public speaking, but I was enunciating alright. The problem is that as I was trying to draw on the board my hand was shaking and I couldn't stop it. And I haven't been able to focus on anything lately and it's finals week for me.

How does everyone else handle a bad day?

 

[cronxeh]

some eat mushrooms or smoke illicit drugs.. some go to sleep

some simply develop an apathetic philosophy - which I would advise. if all else fails, you can claim to have found a true meaning of life in nihilism and pretend that to be your protective cover from all the b.s. of reality

it works

 

[Math Is Hard]

I had a crap day, too. I'm afraid there's only one cure that I know of. Wanna come over and make prank phone calls with me?

Seriously, though - sorry you're going through a rough time.

 

[cronxeh]

I had a crap day, too. I'm afraid there's only one cure that I know of. Wanna come over

You see what she does there? She builds an anticipation, exciting, almost an ephoric feeling

and make prank phone calls with me?

..and then crushes you like a little puny bug you are

 

[Danger]

Sorry to hear about it, Huck. You too, MIH.
My response depends a little upon whether I'm mad or sad. Basically, it always used to be to just bring a dozen beers home and get slogged. Now I come here (sometimes with the beers, but usually without). I really love that you guys cheer me up even when you don't know that I need it.

 

[Huckleberry]

some eat mushrooms or smoke illicit drugs.. some go to sleep

some simply develop an apathetic philosophy - which I would advise. if all else fails, you can claim to have found a true meaning of life in nihilism and pretend that to be your protective cover from all the b.s. of reality

it works

I would, but it's been overdone. But I guess the fact that I posted this thread could be nihilistic, so maybe that will work.

Wanna come over and make prank phone calls with me?

Hmm, a tempting offer. I'd tell you to give me a call, but I'm afraid you would only torment me with prank calls.

..and then crushes you like a little puny bug you are

Yeah, but I'm used to it.

I really love that you guys cheer me up even when you don't know that I need it.

That is reassuring. And the alcohol might help... well, maybe not, but I would enjoy it.

 

[Gale]

OoooOh Man! i was going to post about how i was feeling less than awesome, and how usually that means i dress stupidly, or make dumb faces and go on camera and take pictures that make me laugh.. (see pillowhead thread if you need an example...) but then i just realized that there's a playground right near my dorm, and I'm going to swing! holy man, i love swinging! that makes me feel awesome! and there's slides too! man i love sliding!

Thats how i feel better after a crappy day... i do stupid things that i think are fun. YAY!

 

[Danger]

And the alcohol might help... well, maybe not, but I would enjoy it.

Everybody says "don't drink when you're down; alcohol is a depressant". If I'm depressed already, I damned well want to make it worthwhile.

 

[cronxeh]

yes yes Gale..

singing along with Gale "i feel pretty, oh so pretty"

 

[Danger]

I'm going to swing! holy man, i love swinging!

I like that idea too, but I'm not all that sociable on bad days.

singing along with Gale "i feel pretty, oh so pretty"

As long as you're just singing it, and not believing it, I guess that's okay.

 

[Huckleberry]

Everybody says "don't drink when you're down; alcohol is a depressant". If I'm depressed already, I damned well want to make it worthwhile.

I might try that for a night or two, but its not something I want to make a habit of.

Thats how i feel better after a crappy day... i do stupid things that i think are fun. YAY!

How could anyone be depressed around you? I like to do stupid things when I'm feeling pretty good about myself. At the moment I'm all like, I can't do much of anything right, I'm all pathetic and will probably never amount to anything, blah, blah...

Just a lot of things are hitting me in a row and I was having a hard enough time before. Somehow I just don't feel like taking pictures of myself standing on my head in the park right now. It's too dark for that.

 

[cronxeh]

*rocks on to tunes of happy hardcore*

I feel pretty,
Oh, so pretty,
I feel pretty and witty and bright!
And I pity
Any girl who isn't me tonight.

 

[SOS2008]

Well you haven't tormented me for some time now, would that help? Maybe you should think of something fun to do after finals to give yourself a "light at the end of the tunnel" (and hopefully it's not a train coming ). And by all means, be a bad influence on others--they need it too.

 

[hypatia]

When I'm having a bad day{week}I tend to get busy doing something for someone else, weed there garden, take there kids to the park for a while or walk there pets. It keeps my mind off my own problems.
There is going to be a lot of times in your life when things just suck, and not a darn thing you can do about it.
Sorry to hear about your family Huck, hope you find your land legs again soon.

 

[Huckleberry]

Well you haven't tormented me for some time now, would that help? Maybe you should think of something fun to do after finals to give yourself a "light at the end of the tunnel" (and hopefully it's not a train coming ). And by all means, be a bad influence on others--they need it too.

Torment you? Is that what I do? Did you at least enjoy it? I haven't seen you around PF for a while. I thought you were avoiding me.

There is going to be a lot of times in your life when things just suck, and not a darn thing you can do about it.

Very true. I've been very lucky so far. Almost everyone in my family has been healthy up until this point. That's beginning to change now. The odd thing is that I've never been very close to anyone in my family and I don't really feel much from everything that's happening to them. But when I look at how I'm reacting I notice that I have a hard time dealing with the problems in my own life when something bad happens to my family. So I think it is affecting me somehow.

 

[JamesU]

*rocks on to tunes of happy hardcore*

I feel pretty,
Oh, so pretty,
I feel pretty and witty and bright!
And I pity
Any girl who isn't me tonight.

doo doo doo, doo, doo, doo

I feel charming,
and alarming...

 

[Gale]

How could anyone be depressed around you? I like to do stupid things when I'm feeling pretty good about myself. At the moment I'm all like, I can't do much of anything right, I'm all pathetic and will probably never amount to anything, blah, blah...

Just a lot of things are hitting me in a row and I was having a hard enough time before. Somehow I just don't feel like taking pictures of myself standing on my head in the park right now. It's too dark for that.

well... if you'd like to see pictures of me standing on my head in the park... let me know

at any rate, its like what other people said... you just get your mind off things. I just don't happen to be a productive person, so doing productive things just doesn't work for me. Instead i act stupid... i feel comfortable when i act like I'm 8 and just have fun. I don't have to think about what I'm doing, as long as its entertaining. Bonus points cause not only is it distracting, but usually, its FUN!

 

[Huckleberry]

well... if you'd like to see pictures of me standing on my head in the park... let me know

Now that would definitely make my day. Can you do it with a pillow on your head? Don't want you to get hurt.

I would never act like I was 8. Maybe somewhere in the 10-12 range. Getting old these days.

 

[SOS2008]

Torment you? Is that what I do? Did you at least enjoy it? I haven't seen you around PF for a while. I thought you were avoiding me.

Yes, yes, and yes. I'd like to think it's the other way around. Yeh, this month has been crazy. I will be out-of-town this weekend, and then back in time for Memorial weekend and a party for a friend's birthday. But I'll be back like a bad dream.

 

[Gale]

Now that would definitely make my day. Can you do it with a pillow on your head? Don't want you to get hurt.

I would never act like I was 8. Maybe somewhere in the 10-12 range. Getting old these days.

All the more reason for you to act 8! the younger you act, the better you feel! sides 12 yr olds have all that social awkwardness of going through pueberty... ugh, did that once, won't do it again. 8 is a good age... that's what I'm sticking with.

at any rate, I'm doubting the likelyhood that you'll be receiving any pictures of me on my head... but hey, you can pretend! its make-believe! just like when you were 8! see... while we're at it, i get to be a princess, and you can be my knight... you have to find a way to save me from the tower that the wicked wizard has locked me in...

Ready... GO!

 

[Huckleberry]

Yes, yes, and yes. I'd like to think it's the other way around. Yeh, this month has been crazy. I will be out-of-town this weekend, and then back in time for Memorial weekend and a party for a friend's birthday. But I'll be back like a bad dream.

Then I'll have something to look forward to.

at any rate, I'm doubting the likelyhood that you'll be receiving any pictures of me on my head... but hey, you can pretend! its make-believe! just like when you were 8!

I have a solution. I could always take a picture of the park and cut a Gale shaped hole in it. Then I could stand on my head in front of the computer and look at your Pillow Head pictures. I do that for all my imaginary girlfriends, but usually I use more candles and incense.

see... while we're at it, i get to be a princess, and you can be my knight... you have to find a way to save me from the tower that the wicked wizard has locked me in...
Ready... GO!

Hey, ahhh...Gale, like, let down your hair and stuff so that's I can climz up dere and ahhhh, rescue you from dat ugly old wizard guy.

 

[Moonbear]

Well, you're already doing what I do when life starts coming at me hard and fast, I find friends and vent! Then I drag them out for foo foo drinks! Hey, let's head over to the Tiki Bar and get drinks in coconuts with little umbrellas stuck in them. I could go for a pina colada tonight!

And it's probably mostly the stress of finals getting to you, but just seems worse when all the relatives are suddenly dumping their troubles on you. You just want to focus on studying, and they have you running around all over the place doing stuff for them, etc.

 

[Danger]

I could always take a picture of the park and cut a Gale shaped hole in it. Then I could stand on my head in front of the computer and look at your Pillow Head pictures.

Or you can snipe her picture, invert it, and repost it.

Hey, ahhh...Gale, like, let down your hair and stuff so that's I can climz up dere and ahhhh, rescue you from dat ugly old wizard guy.

Oh, man, but I so want to say something here that her age prevents.

 

[Evo]

Huck, I am so sorry to hear about everything that you are going through. :( MIH, sorry to hear things aren't good either.

I've noticed how tied together we all seem to be. If one of us goes through something bad, we all seem to.

I just want to say that MIH has gone above and beyond whenever I've had problems. She has offered her shoulder to cry on, but more importantly has offered to track down and physically disable anyone that has hurt me. MIH :!)

I also want to thank Tsu, Ivan and Moonbear for their undying support.

Gale, swinging is the best cure for anything.

But, of course, I did send "groovy cat" to everyone for Valentine's Day. Okay, he's on my other computer, so here's hahaha until I can change the picture.

 

[Danger]

here's hahaha until I can change the picture.

How can your own attachment be pending approval. Aren't you the one who approves them?

 

[Danger]

Okay, that was quick.

 

[Evo]

Okay, that was quick.

I need to send you Groovy cat.

 

[Gale]

ya what evo and moonbear said... friends help... at if you're lacking physical ones.. then pf ones work just as well.

I have a solution. I could always take a picture of the park and cut a Gale shaped hole in it. Then I could stand on my head in front of the computer and look at your Pillow Head pictures. I do that for all my imaginary girlfriends, but usually I use more candles and incense.

Hey now! I'm charging for my imaginary girlfriend services... aww... shucks... i guess if you're feeling crummy, i'll give you a freebee...

Hey, ahhh...Gale, like, let down your hair and stuff so that's I can climz up dere and ahhhh, rescue you from dat ugly old wizard guy.

i think you'll also have to get in touch with your inner child... that was weak...

 

[Huckleberry]

I could go for a pina colada tonight!

I could go for a margarita and some really bad karaoke right now. I just realized that I have no problem singing karaoke perfectly sober, but I can't do a presentation in front of my classmates.

I don't feel that anyone is dumping anything on me. I mean, their problems are much worse than mine at the moment and they didn't complain at all. I haven't felt forced to do anything for anyone. If they asked for help I would be glad to offer it. It's not very likely anyone will ask me for anything though. I'm kind of the black sheep of the family.

Or you can snipe her picture, invert it, and repost it.

But then I wouldn't be able to stand on my head, and that's half the fun. See how much fun he's having?

I've noticed how tied together we all seem to be. If one of us goes through something bad, we all seem to.

Uh oh, I wonder who's next?

What is that thing? Looks like something from a giraffe sonogram. Maybe Barbara Walters as a four-legged chicken. Groovy! Every time I hear that word I think of 'Spike' from 'Notting Hill.'

 

[Math Is Hard]

I just want to say that MIH has gone above and beyond whenever I've had problems. She has offered her shoulder to cry on, but more importantly has offered to track down and physically disable anyone that has hurt me. MIH :!)

well, shoot, what are sisters for?!

I'm liking Moonbear's Tiki bar idea more and more. Let's have a round of Blue Hawaiians with pink umbrellas and fruit stuck on top. SOS is back in town, and I believe this is a very good omen that all of our luck is starting to turn around!

 

[Moonbear]

I could go for a margarita and some really bad karaoke right now. I just realized that I have no problem singing karaoke perfectly sober, but I can't do a presentation in front of my classmates.

Maybe you just needed to sing your presentation! In truth, karaoke is easier, because you already know the words and everyone expects it to sound bad, and nobody is giving you a grade for it. And profs expect students to be nervous giving presentations, so shaky hands is really no big deal. I always feel nervous for the students when they start shaking. One of our students gave a seminar last week, and she was doing a great job, but as the flush crept up from her neck and around her ears out over her cheeks, it was obvious she was really nervous. I always just want to reach out and say something reassuring.

I don't feel that anyone is dumping anything on me. I mean, their problems are much worse than mine at the moment and they didn't complain at all. I haven't felt forced to do anything for anyone. If they asked for help I would be glad to offer it. It's not very likely anyone will ask me for anything though. I'm kind of the black sheep of the family.

Dumping was probably the wrong word. I meant more that all these bad things are just piling up all at once. One moment you're blissfully ignorant that anyone has any major health problems, and then suddenly the bad news is hitting you left and right.

 

[Huckleberry]

ya what evo and moonbear said... friends help... at if you're lacking physical ones.. then pf ones work just as well.

I have friends, but I move around a lot so they are spread out all over the U.S. This is good when I don't want to stay in a hotel while I'm travelling, but not so good when I want someone to hang out with. I don't make friends like I used to. Becoming a little anti-social as I approach middle age I guess.

Hey now! I'm charging for my imaginary girlfriend services... aww... shucks... i guess if you're feeling crummy, i'll give you a freebee...

I used to like to play freebee. I could throw that thing around all day in the park with my friends. Parks are a great place to play with freebees.

i think you'll also have to get in touch with your inner child... that was weak...

You'd like to see mew run in circles wouldntcha?

 

[BicycleTree]

The cure for a bad day is a lifetime of spiritual seeking. Just another step on the road.

Really, if you come to the end of your life and you haven't spent serious time in spiritual seeking, wouldn't you feel kind of futile?

 

[Moonbear]

well, shoot, what are sisters for?!

I'm liking Moonbear's Tiki bar idea more and more. Let's have a round of Blue Hawaiians with pink umbrellas and fruit stuck on top. SOS is back in town, and I believe this is a very good omen that all of our luck is starting to turn around!

Where's Danger? Barkeep! We'll have a round of pina coladas, a round of margueritas (make mine a daquiri; I don't get along well with tequila), and a round of Blue Hawaiians! *hic*

 

[Moonbear]

I have friends, but I move around a lot so they are spread out all over the U.S. This is good when I don't want to stay in a hotel while I'm travelling, but not so good when I want someone to hang out with. I don't make friends like I used to. Becoming a little anti-social as I approach middle age I guess.

I think we all become like that. I have the same problem. Most of my friends here are coworkers. You just do the old routine, get up, go to work, come home tired, eat dinner, get on PF, go to sleep, repeat. When you're younger, you meet new people all the time, your friends don't all have kids, so they actually throw parties and attend parties, etc. I really need more single friends (and yes, friends who aren't scattered across the planet), because all these people with kids are just no fun at all.

 

[Math Is Hard]

Where's Danger? Barkeep! We'll have a round of pina coladas, a round of margueritas (make mine a daquiri; I don't get along well with tequila), and a round of Blue Hawaiians! *hic*

hmm.. we need some snacks. I just ordered a couple of flaming pu-pu platters, too. Hope y'all don't mind.

 

[Moonbear]

hmm.. we need some snacks. I just ordered a couple of flaming pu-pu platters, too. Hope y'all don't mind.

Flaming pu-pu? You really are in the mood for pranks tonight, aren't you?

 

[Huckleberry]

I'm liking Moonbear's Tiki bar idea more and more.

But you always like Moonbear's Tiki bar idea.

Maybe you just needed to sing your presentation!

I think everything would work out much better if I sang karaoke sober and did my presentation drunk.

Where's that old wizard Danger. Wizard, I'll have me a margarita and a microphone please. And there's something extra in it for you if you bring me a picture of my imaginary girlfriend from your tower while she is standing on her head in the park.

The cure for a bad day is a lifetime of spiritual seeking. Just another step on the road.

I'm on the road again
And I'm goin' places I've never been
And places where I'll never go again
I can't believe it
I'm on the road again

 

[Huckleberry]

hmm.. we need some snacks. I just ordered a couple of flaming pu-pu platters, too. Hope y'all don't mind.

Just don't ring the doorbell and leave them on the porch without saying hello.

 

[Danger]

I need to send you Groovy cat.

Yes please. I haven't gotten a Valentine since I was 14.

But then I wouldn't be able to stand on my head, and that's half the fun.

Enjoy it while you're young. If I tried to stand on my head, my neck would fold up and my brains would run out of my ears. Not to mention, all of my blood would rush away from the important places.

What is that thing? Looks like something from a giraffe sonogram.

I think that someone has crossed an alpaca with a silkworm in hope of making warmer suits for us Canuks.

 

[Moonbear]

I think everything would work out much better if I sang karaoke sober and did my presentation drunk.

It might have helped if you thought of this sometime before your presentation. Y'know, I've never done karaoke. But, I can sing badly enough, so I'm sure I could do it. If you want good singing, then you have to wait until I'm drunk...I think I sound much better when drunk, and I don't even need a microphone then! I'm also good at singing in the shower (I can do that sober or drunk, your call).

I'm on the road again
And I'm goin' places I've never been
And places where I'll never go again
I can't believe it
I'm on the road again

Ack! That's just the sort of song to get stuck in my head! Good thing I haven't taken my shower yet, I can get it out of my system belting it out in the shower!

 

[Gale]

haha... have fun getting drunk at the tiki bar! I'm sure a bunch of drunk women around would definately lighten huck's mood eh... haha.. i spose a teenager standing on her head in the park pretending to be a princess doesn't quite compare... but perhaps if you all drink enough, you'll be joining me soon anyways eh?

 

[Moonbear]

haha... have fun getting drunk at the tiki bar! I'm sure a bunch of drunk women around would definately lighten huck's mood eh... haha.. i spose a teenager standing on her head in the park pretending to be a princess doesn't quite compare... but perhaps if you all drink enough, you'll be joining me soon anyways eh?

Yep, once I'm drunk enough, I won't even remember I'm wearing a skirt when I stand on my head in the park! It'll either cheer up Huck or send him running away screaming.

 

[zoobyshoe]

I had a crap day, too. I'm afraid there's only one cure that I know of. Wanna come over and make prank phone calls with me?

Hmm, a tempting offer. I'd tell you to give me a call, but I'm afraid you would only torment me with prank calls.

Actually, her tactic would be to get you to make the prank calls: "Hey, Huck, why don't you dial this large office building and ask them if they realize there's a guy in a 3rd floor office, south side, 4th window from the left, dancing naked in front of the window with a large stuffed animal?"

The she would position herself with video camera, first to tape the crowd that emerges from the building to scan the south side windows, and later, outside your residence to tape it when the cops come investigating an interesting call made from that address. She has a large collection of such tapes.

 

[Math Is Hard]

Yep, once I'm drunk enough, I won't even remember I'm wearing a skirt when I stand on my head in the park! It'll either cheer up Huck or send him running away screaming.

cool! You'll be SKIRT-HEAD!

The she would position herself with video camera, first to tape the crowd that emerges from the building to scan the south side windows, and later, outside your residence to tape it when the cops come investigating an interesting call made from that address. She has a large collection of such tapes.

Dang it, Zooby! SHHHHHHHHH! You're ruining my evil plan!

 

[Huckleberry]

I'm also good at singing in the shower (I can do that sober or drunk, your call).

Either is fine for me, but don't bring the microphone.

but perhaps if you all drink enough, you'll be joining me soon anyways eh?

I don't think anyone will mind if you sneak a few drinks here. Maybe we'll all end up in the park playing freebee by the end of the night.

Yep, once I'm drunk enough, I won't even remember I'm wearing a skirt when I stand on my head in the park!

Moonbear is already there. She's way ahead of us again. Somebody grab her keys.

 

[Huckleberry]

She has a large collection of such tapes.

I don't know why I keep falling for that trick

 

[zoobyshoe]

Dang it, Zooby! SHHHHHHHHH! You're ruining my evil plan!

Yah, right! Entraping Huck into making prank calls was my evil plan, which you were trying to hijack in my absence.

 

[Danger]

Parks are a great place to play with freebees.

The only place I ever got to play with freebies is in an alley off 4th Avenue.

Really, if you come to the end of your life and you haven't spent serious time in spiritual seeking, wouldn't you feel kind of futile?

Not at all. If I had spent it, I'd feel that I'd wasted time when I could have been doing something else.

Where's that old wizard Danger. Wizard, I'll have me a margarita and a microphone please. And there's something extra in it for you if you bring me a picture of my imaginary girlfriend from your tower while she is standing on her head in the park.

Here you go, mate. The picture's hidden in your cocktail napkin.

I'm also good at singing in the shower (I can do that sober or drunk, your call).

One front row centre seat, please. (Or is SOS selling the tickets?) Preference of sober or drunk depends upon your relative levels of resistance.

It'll either cheer up Huck or send him running away screaming.

He's never mentioned an aversion to fur-bearing animals.

Either is fine for me, but don't bring the microphone.

That's not a microphone; she just holds it like one. (I think she watched Grace Slick a little too often.)

 

[Moonbear]

Maybe we'll all end up in the park playing freebee by the end of the night.

Okay, I'm still not sure on this one. What is freebee? Is that what the rest of us call frisbee? Or is it a different game?

Moonbear is already there. She's way ahead of us again. Somebody grab her keys.

Oh, it's okay, there are no drinking and driving rules in the supersonic RV. The minimum drinking age in the RV might be 17.6 years old too.