Well there's a lot of interesting stuff here. Point by point -
re - "Imagine that there is an object which moves with a constant velocity in a certain direction, according to E=mc^2, the object's mass should increases."
Keep in mind that there are two definitions of the term "mass" in relativity in common use
(1) The "m" in E^2 - (pc)^2 = m^2 c^4 -- This is what people call "m = rest mass" or "proper mass"
(2) The "M" in p = Mv - This is what people call "relativistic mass"
Note: M = m/sqrt[1 - (v/c)^2]
I prefer the later (M) since the former is not always well defined for a system of partilces (gets a bit complicated to explain but will be more than happy to upon request). M is also the quantity which retains all the properties that one normally associates with mass.
re - "The question now is: Does this (increasing in mass) as an (increasing in the usm of mass/energy in the body? or it is as an (increasing in the "actual mass" of the object)?"
"M" increases because the moving body has more energy then the same body at rest. It is a result of both time dilation and Lorentz contraction.
"m" is an inherent property of the body.
You also asked in the subject line - " I am "heavy" or having "more mass"?"
Regardless of how you define the term "mass" - A moving bodyu wieghs more than the same body at rest. The weight is NOT given by W = mg but by W = Mg.
I have two proofs that I did on this. One of which is a full blown calculation in general relativity. See --
http://www.geocities.com/physics_world/grav_light.htm
There was a comment - "For example, accelerating to near lightspeed will not cause you to generate a larger gravitational field, and will not ever cause you to collapse into a black hole etc."
This is incorrect. First off whether a body is a black hole is not determined by the amount of mass a body has. It's determined by the amount of mass that is contained within the Schwarzschild radius in the rest frame of the body.
The strength of a gravitational field depends on the velocity of the source. In fact you can have a gravitational field even when the total rest mass (i.e. "m") is zero. For example a beam of light can generate a gravitational field. See --
http://www.geocities.com/physics_world/grav_light.htm
re - "However,it is gaining energy by heating it,so according to this (since we consider no mass loss because of heating eg water etc) the mass of the meat will increase..."
The particles of which the meat is made of increase in their velocity ( see box of particles in the first link I gave - i called it a 2-dimensional gas as I recall). However its not just kinetic energy but all forms of energy which have mass. Suppose I have a spring and I put it on a wieght scale and I read the weight then I compress the spring and place the compressed spring on the scale. Since the compressed spring has more energy it will wiegh more and thus have a greater (passive gravitational) mass.
Simply put - If you heat up a gold ball then the rest mass of the golf ball wil increase.
Even light has mass since light has energy. (has relativistic mass but not rest mass).
re - " Unless someone corrects me, I don't think relativistic mass has an gravitational effect." - That is incorrect. In fact GR people often refer to the source of gravity as Mass-Energy since the source of gravity is relativistic mass - Buy "source of gravity" I mean that relativistic mass plays the role of a gravitational charge. So if you replace the idea of charge (Note: charge does not change with speed) with relativistic mass then the analogy holds true. In fact in linearized GR the equations are nearly identical with the equations of EM (Maxwell's equations) but with charge replaced by relativistic mass.
Pete