AFAIK, we were discussing "absolute" acceleration, which people here has identified with proper acceleration explaining it away as a "local observable". But that suggests we should call local observables like proper time, "absolute time" which would be both wrong and confusing in a theory that bans absolute time and space. And what seems to bother the OP is that within SR, if the principle of relativity holds, there should not be any absolute motion, and that includes absolute accelerations. Vectorial components in afine spaces surely are frame dependent.
This quote from "Quantum gravity" by Carlo Rovelli might help (or confuse who knows):
"Generalizing relativity. Einstein was impressed by galilean relativity. The velocity of a single object has no meaning;only the velocity of objects with respect to one another is meaningful. Notice that, in a sense, this is a failure of Newton's program of revealing the "true motions". It is a minor, but significant failure. For Einstein, this was the hint that there is something wrong in the Newtonian conceptual scheme.
In spite of its immense empirical success, Newton's idea of an absolute space has something deeply disturbing in it. As Leibniz, Mach, and many others emphasized, space is asort of extrasensorial entity that acts on objects but cannot be acted upon. Einstein was convinced that the idea of such an absolute space was wrong. There can be no absolute space, no "true motion". Only relative motion, and therefore relative acceleration must be physically meaningful. Absolute acceleration should not enter physical equations."