Hey,
Great questions.
I will answer your second and third question now and try to lcome up with a suitable example for the first later in the post.
Beginning with question 3:
Yes it is like chess and it comes up with experience (not a lot of experience ks required cause I am in high school too :-) )and some luck too!
Read my comments (and other members' too) here
https://www.physicsforums.com/showthread.php?t=588408
The general way is to switch methods when one way is getting way too long.
There is no fixed rule or order.
The only thing you should remember is to avoid to differentiate a function like g(x)/f(x)
(1/ln(x) was such a function in our question)
It leads to way too many terms.
I usually do a rough math in my head first to see what all possible functions pop up in the first few steps and then I write on paper the exact steps to obtain the answer.
I think a lot , and even after I have obtained an answer I keep looking for other methods .
Like in this question i saw that (i have to make a 0/0 or infinity by infinity) tanx has a much more elegant reciprocal cotx which when goes down produces a simple function -cosec^2x on differentiation so i went that way.
There is no thumb rule.
Key is to think for a few seconds before attempting and to plan your assault.
Answering question 2
Observation is really very important.At every stage you have think of a quick exit to solution or some manipulation which can help decrease calculation.
Suppose the value of limit is y
so y=sec^2(x)*ln(x)^2/(1/x)
Y=sec^2(x)*ln(x)^2*x
Now as x tends to zero x=tan x
So y =sec^2(x)*ln(x)^2*tan(x)
y=sec^2(x)*lnx*y
(Remember y=lnx*tanx)
y(1-sec^2(x)ln(x))=1
y=1/(1-sec^2(x)ln(x))=0.
All steps may seem very arbitrary right now and like a very lucky guess
(and to certain extent it is),
but with practice (and some slight changes in thinking ) they are easy to interpret.
For the first question look at
x^2/tan^x (x tends to 0).
Its value is 1.
However if you take an
x out it becomes
Lt (x) Lt (x/tan^2x)
which yields half on differentiation which is wrong.