Outhouse said:
I see the neutrons being changed/popped, much the same way the hadron collider destroys atomic particles.
Sorry, I still don't know what this means. The LHC does not "destroy" particles; it just induces high-energy interactions that won't happen under normal conditions here on Earth. Some of those interactions involve particles being converted into other particles.
It's certainly possible that, once a collapsing object like a former neutron star has collapsed to a black hole, and the collapsing matter inside the hole reaches high enough temperature, that interactions similar to what is observed inside the LHC might happen; but that would be well after the collapse has formed an event horizon around itself and is not observable from outside. The LHC interactions have nothing to do with what is inside an ordinary neutron star, or even one that has accreted some matter and is now over the maximum mass limit and is collapsing to a black hole, but has not yet formed a horizon.
Outhouse said:
Why can't we use the term a relational theory in regards to general relativity? we observe and report back the mathematical relationship without knowing why the bending of space causes the weak force.
The bending of spacetime does not "cause" gravity (and gravity is not the same as the weak interaction; that's a separate interaction, which is involved in processes like nuclear beta decay). The bending of spacetime
is gravity. They're just different names for the same thing.
Asking why spacetime bends in the presence of matter and energy is like asking why the laws of physics are what they are. There's no way to resolve such a question experimentally, so it's off topic here.
Outhouse said:
im looking at the exact reasons the two are not cohesive
Meaning quantum mechanics and GR? It's because nobody knows how a quantum theory can coexist with a non-quantum theory. The only thing we understand is how to figure out the classical limit of a quantum theory; but we don't know any quantum theory of which GR is the classical limit. (The search for a theory of quantum gravity is the search for such a quantum theory, but so far it has not come up with one that has been confirmed to work.)
Outhouse said:
The actual mechanics causing the force not described by GR
In GR gravity is not a force at all; it's spacetime curvature.