Buckethead said:
I meant to ask this earlier, but when you say convention can I take that to mean, we have a timeline, and we can pick a point on the timeline and call that the present moment and so work from that point. If so, then yes I understand that and am certainly not resistant to it.
It is more than that. Not only can you pick any event on the timeline and call that “the present” you can choose any spacelike surface through that event and call it “now”. It does not need to be perpendicular to your worldline nor even a flat surface.
Buckethead said:
At this very moment in time, there is a unique point on my timeline. Is this correct?
There is a unique event on your timeline where your wristwatch reads 7:58 pm on 21 Oct 2021. Whether you consider that specific moment to be “the present moment” or not is entirely a matter of convention.
Buckethead said:
if I am with someone at that moment in time, they too are also in the present moment and our timelines are touching.
Sure, if you are with someone at 7:58 pm on your watch and if you designate that as “the present moment” then they too are in “the present moment”. Again, this event being “the present moment” is not a statement of anything physical, just a convention that you chose. The physical facts are that your timelines intersected at the unique event where your watch read 7:58 pm.
Buckethead said:
Now, she walks off and returns. When she returns, there is a new unique point on our timelines (intersecting) and this is now the present moment. The original point is no longer the present moment. She is younger than me now due to time dilation (she was older before) yet, at this new point, we are both in the present moment.
Sure, when you come back together your watch reads 8:31 pm and hers reads 8:29 pm.
Buckethead said:
The original point is no longer the present moment
Sure, it is just a convention with no physical content, so you are allowed to change the convention as you like.
Buckethead said:
She is younger than me now due to time dilation (she was older before) yet, at this new point, we are both in the present moment.
Again, think of the strings in a block of amber. There is nothing bizarre about two strings that have a different number of those evenly spaced marks on them. If one is straight and the other bends then the bent one will always have more marks on it. That is all that has happened here.
Buckethead said:
I am at a new point in my timeline, which is now the present moment, she is also at some point in her timeline (her present moment which must occur since we all experience the present moment)
We experience our experiences at each moment, including the common experience of “being present”. That experience does not physically distinguish any moment as uniquely the present. When your watch read 7:58 pm you experienced the sensation of being present. When your watch read 7:59 pm you experienced the sensation of being present. When your watch read 8:00 pm … So there is nothing unique about 7:58 pm, nor about 7:59 pm, nor any other time.
Buckethead said:
At these two points, there is a unique line on a plane that connects these two points. Is this plane the one that intersects my "world tube" perpendicularly?
You can make an infinite number of spacelike surfaces that include any two arbitrary spacelike separated events. The surface you choose is as arbitrary as the events you designate.
Buckethead said:
So this plane would not be her "simultaneity" plane and it is for me. That indicates to me that her present moment and my present moment are not the same present moment from her point of view, a seeming paradox.
No paradox, merely different equally valid and equally arbitrary conventions. Which has been pointed out repeatedly.