while what jimmy said is right (although the layman's description of "going through all paths at once" could be argued with), there's a description of it that may answer your question better.
Given a finite potential barrier, the particle has some probability of being "inside" the barrier. The probability decays exponentially the farther inside you go, but it is always finite. Therefore you could view tunneling as the particle making it to the very end of the barrier. In classical terms, if the particle tunnels then it did actually go through the barrier.
As for interacting with the barrier, it really doesn't work like that. The barrier isn't some physical thing. It is a potential barrier, which means that the potential energy inside the barrier is higher than the particles kinetic energy. There isn't really anything to interact with in the idealized "barrier" since it is nothing more than some unchanging potential.
In a real situation, like in a hydrogen atom, the potential barrier is caused by some other particle. However, in the case of the hydrogen atom (and every other example I can think of), the particle isn't actually located inside the "barrier". With hydrogen, the potential is a -1/r curve with the proton situated in the center. In this case, although the electron can't "tunnel", it could theoretically be detected outside of the classical limit (i.e. at some distance further than where its kinetic energy should allow it to be). After it is detected there, the proton/electron system does change and you could say that the electron has "interacted" with the proton. However, its really your measurement than interacts with the 2 particle system.