Hey all! I am in a bit of a bad situation. I recently started my PhD in another country, but now I feel that I am regretting it. The main reason is that my girlfriend does not seem to be able to move here (she lives in a different country, also different from where I am from). Right now I just feel like I want to quit and move and live with her, but then I would probably make some people upset and I dont know what my chances would be in academia after that. The university is also not good enough such that I could view it as an investment for my future that would be worth living four more years like this and jeopardizing my relationship. I also do not enjoy myself very much here and have quite few friends. The only reasonable way out right now is that I could turn this into a joint PhD with a university where she lives and then spend at least half of the time there. I am also considering doing this unpaid, ie move there and start working for free and hope that they will think I am good enough to be admitted (I have enough money to support myself for up to a year). How realistic is my plan? If there are any staff members reading this, how supportive would you be of such a decision? Or what other choices do I have? (and I dont really want to discuss why I made the decisions I made, what is done is done and cant be changed.) Edit: I could add that the reason that she cant move here is that the immigration laws are much worse than we had anticipated, so she is not even eligible to apply for most jobs.