So last night my girlfriend decides to tell me that she "accidentally" kissed some guy at her work. Uh Huh... So I wait for her to explain... no explination comes for several minutes. Finally she starts talking... "I just went to give him a hug and then he turned his head....." dot dot dot nothing else being said... "Aaand...." "And what?" "Well? Did you kiss him? What?" "Well yeah." Silence. "He just turned his head. It was an accident." "Uh Huh..." "I mean I never get to see you what do you expect is going to happen?" At this I was pretty pissed off. So I just said "I don't get to see you very often either." and walked away. Later she comes back to talk to me again. All the sudden the story starts changing. Next thing you know he was the one kissing her and then they were just sort of accidentally kissing each other and then "no our lips just sort of grazed each other, it wasn't a real kiss". "Uh Huh" So I told her that I can't trust her. She complained that she had told me the truth and been honest with me. I asked her which story she had told me was the truth. She told me that she would show me how this "accidental kiss" happened. I said no then told her that she could go get one of her friends and demonstrate on one of them. Eventually it hit me... "What we have here is a no win situation. I have every reason to believe that you are lying to me right now. If I were to accept what you are saying as truth and forgive you and you really are lying then you will not respect me anymore and not want to be with me. If I make you prove to me that you are telling the truth, even if you are able to do so, you will be angry with me for not trusting you and not want to be with me any more." So not even taking into account how I would feel about myself in either situation it was quite clear that the proper solution was to just end the relationship. Does that make me a cold hearted basterd to be evaluating my relationships that way? By the way I talked to one of her friends after I had made my decision. I asked him what she had told him about what was going on. He said that she had been saying she isn't sure if she wants to be with me and that there is a cute guy at her work that she likes. I suddenly felt quite a bit better about calling her a lier.