Hi, I'm no longer rooming with my old roommate, we switched rooms and I know have a new one, but I'm not sure really who was at fault when I was rooming with old roommate and would like some opinions. First of he decided to go down to the hall director and the RA and complain about rooming with me and that he was having a hard time doing so without even tell me. I was extremely shocked when I got a call down to the hall directors office and the bomb went off and I was asked if me and roommate talked about doing a room swap and how he thought the living conditions were bad in my room. I thought that this was obviously bad on his part. I believe that if you have a problem with someone, especially your roommate who you are around a lot, you should first speak with that person before pursing other means of solving an issue with getting a long with the individual and complaining to other people. I had no idea that me and my roommate weren't getting along and that I can't really fix or change something to allow him to room with me better if he does not tell me. I thought this was just a implied social thing but I guess I'm wrong. I felt pretty insulted that my roommate didn't have the respect for me to tell me that he was having a problem rooming with me and just went to the hall director and RA first and complained. If I was having an issue with my roommate I would let my roommate know first that way he can better accommodation my wishes into his living patterns. I believe that I should be able to do whatever I want in my room, with reason, while respecting the fact that I have a roommate. If I want to sit in my room and study for long periods of time or do other quite activities that don't make much noise and disturb my roommate I don't see what's wrong with that. My old roommate liked to listen to music and watch TV, which there's nothing wrong with. We valued our education completely differently. I like to study a lot and get good grades but he didn't. While I was getting perfect scores on midterms he was getting 60s. I believe this is perfectly fine. There's no reason why my roommate should value his education as much as I do. His values are his values my values are my values. I believe that if I wish to listen to music or watch tv and 9 at night, or 4 in the morning, or whenever for that matter, that I should be able to, but just because I value listening to music or watching tv at these times doesn't mean that I should force my roommate to listen to music or watch tv as well. I should put in headphones. I then can listen to music or watch tv whenever I want or all day if I wanted. My old roommate like to sleep for like 8-10 hours a night and I only need 4-5. Just because my roommate likes to sleep twice as much as I do doesn't mean that I should value sleeping for 10 hours as well. Just because my roommate is sleeping doesn't mean that I should. If I want to engage in a quite activity like studying while my roommate is sleeping I don't see what's wrong with that. There's not really much place to study, there are a couple of study rooms downstairs, but drunk idiots run around at night and make lots of noise and you have idiots who stand out in front of them talking. The most productive and quite place to study is your room. I could go downstairs and try to study in such a enviorment sure, but my roommate could also try to sleep in such a enviorment as well. I don't know I feel as if I should be able to do whatever I want whenever I want in my room for as long as I want if it's a quite activity that dosen't make much noise. If it's an activity that makes a lot of noise, like watching tv or listening music, I should be respectful of the fact that my roommate may not want to listen to music or watch tv so I should put headphones in and then i can listen to music or watch tv whenever i wanted for as long as i wanted. Is my roommate philosophy screwed up and I'm fault? My new roommate is the best and seems to agree with this philosophy and puts headphones in when he wants to listen to music and just sits at this desk all day and do what ever he does on his computer and study just like me. We can go like 4 hours with both of us sitting at our desks reading without making a single noise or shifting or anything. It's so nice and quite in my room now all the time. I can take a nap with my roommate in the room studying or on his computer with no problem lol it's awesome.