First I'd like to thank everyone for their excellent replies. This has been an interesting thread for me, and hopefully to others too. Now I would like to clarify my position as is my obligation in response to your efforts and questions:
And yet you seem unable to give a simple, clear statement of this "theorem".
I probably deserve this, on the following analogy: Just as one cannot claim not to have stepped on someone's foot simply because you didn't know you did (or might have), but you have to take into consideration the experience of the person who feels the pain of a squashed toe, I have not been as clear as I could have. We can judge this partly by the results.
But now that I've reread the quoted section, it sounds like you are asserting the following equality:
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\frac{G m_1 m_2}{|\vec{r}|^3} \vec{r} = \int \int \frac{G f(\vec{x}) g(\vec{y})}{|\vec{y} - \vec{x}|^3} (\vec{y} - \vec{x}) d\vec{x}^3 d\vec{y}^3<br />
I am going to try to reply to this more clearly:
What I was doing was applying the premise of the approximation known as the Centre of Mass "method" (we will avoid calling it a 'theorem' so as not to disturb mathematicians who like precision of descriptive terms). I applied it in a way so as to show that it is not just a simple approximation with a predictable 'error' term, but one that produces arbitrary and self-contradictory results when applied in different ways. The purpose was educational, not an attempt to use the Centre of Mass 'method' to realistically calculate the forces. If I had the choice with the solid sphere example, I'd prefer the Sphere Theorem because it will naturally be more accurate and consistent at least with a large mass that itself approximates a continuum distribution of mass. The Sphere Theorem fails for different reasons when applied to discrete distributions of mass in cases like the ones discussed in my other thread.
Dr. Brain was correct that in the Electrostatic case, it is possible for charges to 'shield' one another or counter effects. This is not the case for gravitational forces (at least according to Newtonian Gravitational Theory as normally proposed).
Dr.Brain said:
The assumption that if force is applied at a point randomly then the object will rotate around the centre of mass is not correct. Tests have shown that there are intermediate-points around which the whole rod/rigid body rotates in between the rotations.
This is quite interesting: Can you articulate this in more detail? I am not sure exactly what effect is being discussed here.
arun-mid said:
I could apply the same reasoning to a ring of uniform mass M and radius R; ...Can RP explain this before going on to the complex aspects of it?
In fact, with a ring the force experienced by a particle moving along the axis of symmetry (make that the x-axis) is actually interesting: there is an angle to the ring edge at which the force is maximum, then it fades to zero as the particle moves even closer to the Geometric Centre, then it gradually increases again (still attractive) as the particle continues its path, (the force pulling in the opposite direction) and finally fading out like a 1/d^2 law. I will post the equation and the graph shortly for you.
Again the Centre of Mass 'approximation' will be in error. This time it will be a quantifiable error, due to symmetry, even if the mass is arbitrarily divided up and summed.
Stingray's response is excellent, however I have one fault with it, and that is, it is impenetrable to people like arun_mid who have no advanced engineering methods at their fingertips. Perhaps you could break it down into more steps with some real discussion for ordinary humans: otherwise it will appear to be more like 'showing off' than illuminating a physics problem. You've got DEL operators, spherical harmonics, unidentified angles (or more exotic objects) and no diagrams. It seems a bit unfair to just say 'go find a book on dipole analysis techniques'.