(1) ##x^n+y^n\neq(x+y)^n## unless either ##x=0## or ##y=0## or ##n=1##. This is a very common mistake among calculus students. Don't make this mistake. You will lose every time.
(2) Understanding the proof of the power rule is not likely to help you to be able to use the power rule or improve your grade in a standard calculus class. I'm not trying to discourage you from doing so, in fact I applaud your effort. I'm just saying ...
(3) Because it's easier to verify than it is to derive (even with some examples), ##x^k-a^k=(x-a)(x^{k-1}+x^{k-2}a+x^{k-3}a^2+x^{k-4}a^3+...+x^3a^{k-4}+x^2a^{k-3}+xa^{k-2}+a^{k-1})##. But this only works when ##k## is a natural number.
(4) The guy in the video made a typo. It should have been ##lim_{x\rightarrow a}\frac{x^m-a^m}{x^n-a^n}=\frac{m}{n}a^{m-n}##. The first step in this limit is factoring as in (3). Again, we need ##m## and ##n## to be natural numbers.
(5) To prove the power rule in general (i.e. for powers that aren't natural numbers) one typically appeals to a combination of one or more of (i) "easy" power rule, (ii) the chain rule, (iii) the quotient rule, (iv) implicit differentiation, (v) logarithmic differentiation.