What do 'nerdy' guys like in girls?

[catabelle]

well obviously it's not..Im english myself and I'm here, so.. anyway, I think its an interesting topic, but surely is one that has no definitive answer, so I suppose it all boils down to personal preferences, as it does for what any person finds attractive

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

the post by junglebeast up there has intruiged me...

Most men are simply intimidated by women that are as, or more, intelligent and successful. Geeks by contrast tend to be more secure in these areas but less secure in their looks so are often intimidated by incredibly attractive women. Most of the geeky guys I have known have the story of the one mind bogglingly attractive woman they have dated that broke their heart. When you have been convinced that "yes you are absolutely good enough" only to later be told "sorry I was wrong" it is rather difficult to repair one's confidence.

Another possibility is that these guys sincerely consider these women attractive whom you find less than attractive. Most of the geeky men I know have quirky taste in women. You never know, it may be that the first girl they ever kissed had glasses, braces, kinky hair, and enough freckles to blot out the sun.

 

[catabelle]

yeah that has often been my thought, that it is me that has the unusual and perhaps too typical view of what makes an attractive woman. However, I have had men and women alike agree on the attractiveness of the women I have known who have dated geeky men.

You're also right in the story that these geeky men have about the one attractive woman that ended in sorrow..so perhaps that too is a factor in their later relationships being with women of a different type of attractiveness/different level of attractiveness.
But I do still feel it is something more to do with intimidation in a lot, (but I am sure not all) cases. Which is a shame, because if these guys knew just how attractive a man who I can discuss string theory with is, wow, they'd be sure that I didnt consider them unnatractive at all! haha.

(by the way - loving the tom waits quote. The man's a genius, bring on the imaginarium and him being the devil!)

 

[Evo]

The men on here all seem to have very attractive wives, girlfriends and boyfriends. And a lot of those women are also scientists.

 

[catabelle]

we're not saying they dont/arent..there are lots of attractive people in the world who are clever too. we're speaking in generalisations, which is what most forums are about, its generalising as if you took every case individually it'd be a proper study, but I am only giving my general observations

 

[Evo]

we're not saying they dont/arent..there are lots of attractive people in the world who are clever too. we're speaking in generalisations, which is what most forums are about, its generalising as if you took every case individually it'd be a proper study, but I am only giving my general observations

Check out our member photo thread. Be prepared to drool.

 

[Lancelot59]

we're not saying they dont/arent..there are lots of attractive people in the world who are clever too. we're speaking in generalisations, which is what most forums are about, its generalising as if you took every case individually it'd be a proper study, but I am only giving my general observations

Perhaps we should run a proper study. It might help settle this once and for all.

 

[Office_Shredder]

The men on here all seem to have very attractive wives, girlfriends and boyfriends. And a lot of those women are also scientists.

Tough luck for the married gays

 

[Evo]

Tough luck for the married gays

Ooops, and the married gay spouses. I forgot that marriage is finally being allowed.

 

[Pythagorean]

1. intellectually stimulating
2. physically attractive
3. spiritually enriching*

(atheist view, not religious. Spiritually enriching, as in, likes to do a lot of different things and interact with the world directly: adventurous, likes to explore, etc)

 

[Pythagorean]

1. intellectually stimulating
2. physically attractive
3. spiritually enriching*

(atheist view, not religious. Spiritually enriching, as in, likes to do a lot of different things and interact with the world directly: adventurous, likes to explore, etc)

edit:
order isn't meant to imply importance. All three are equally important.

 

[Lancelot59]

I have to agree there.

A lot of people will call you boldfacedly shallow for including physically attractive on the list, but it's just one of those things that has to be there.

I really like the third point. Unless that person likes to do things, there's no point in being with them. It would just be...boring.

And no I'm not talking about sex there.

 

[Hurkyl]

2. physically attractive

You're boldfacedly shallow!

 

[catabelle]

Haha..i think that list of 3 is what everyone looks for in a partner, geek or not, male or female, without those things it'd never be the relationship I think most of us hope for.
Yeah I did check out the photo thread hehe..as for a proper study, well i think this would come back to how you measure attractiveness? I'm not sure there is a way in which you can once and for all measure how attractive someone is, because everyone likes different things don't they. I am only reffering to the typical idea of beauty, which of course, not everyone actually likes. And that, can only be a thing to celebrate eh.

 

[Lancelot59]

Yeah, when it comes to physical beauty everyone has their own particular likes/dislikes.

 

[Evo]

Yeah, when it comes to physical beauty everyone has their own particular likes/dislikes.

True, I like skinny, non-muscular guys with longer hair and glasses. :!)

 

[Pythagorean]

True, I like skinny, non-muscular guys with longer hair and glasses. :!)

so does my baby's mama!

 

[Loren Booda]

Face it - some guys are so shy they need an intrepid girl to ask them out. That can bring out natural communication where there was insecurity. (Look at "A Beautiful Mind.")

If there is a next time, hint that it would be for the guy to reciprocate.

 

[mcknia07]

True, I like skinny, non-muscular guys with longer hair and glasses. :!)

Boy, do I have the perfect man for you ...

We do have quite a few here to pick from.

 

[sermatt]

For me, most importantly, she has to have class.

I guess "class" is like a package of intelligence, good looks, confidence, style, and, as was mentioned before, risk-taking.

Much like Audrey Hepburn or that gorgeous dame from the new Stella Artois commercial.

But then again, I'll never get either one, so :)

 

[catabelle]

thats a good answer sermatt.. class is something i think is important generally. Audrey hepburn as holly golightly has all those things..just a shame she was basically a hooker that didnt put out..maybe that takes away from the class hehe.
And don't put yourself down eh, you wouldn't want hepburn these days anyway..!

 

[mal4mac]

I would just go up to them and ask "where are you taking me Friday night?" It always worked.

Blimey I'd run for the hills in a state of shock. Than again, I'm a British nerd. That's a whole new level of nerdiness!

 

[Kurdt]

Hey! It worked on me and I'm a nerd too.

 

[cristo]

Just noticed this, so figured I'd reply...

I am a nerdy guy who is 23 and in college. I have 3 qualities that I look for in a girl.

1. Intelligents
2. Ambition
3. Atheist

Intelligents is a big one for me.

I think it's quite ironic that a guy looking for intelligence in a girl doesn't know how to spell it!

I also like a girl who has ambition in life, for example pursuing a PhD or wanting to become a research scientist or doctor or something of the sort.

Sorry, but why does "ambition" equate to either doing a PhD or wanting to be a doctor? That's an incredibly naive viewpoint.

I honestly have never met a girl that met all three of these qualities, which is why I haven't had a gf in the past couple years.

That's not all that surprising, given that you have an incredibly restrictive set of criteria that one must meet!

 

[marlon]

Just for your information, what non nerdy guys -like me- look for in a girl is hard to explain in words so i will provide you with the following visual example :

http://www.topnews.in/files/JenniferLoveHewitt.jpg

marlon

 

[thomasxc]

i like long legs and a high IQ.

 

[KingNothing]

Beauty.
Class.
Wearing a Dress.

 

[marlon]

Beauty.
Class.
Wearing a Dress.

marlon

 

[catabelle]

Blimey I'd run for the hills in a state of shock. Than again, I'm a British nerd. That's a whole new level of nerdiness!

I do agree with this, british nerds are a different kettle of fish altogether from american ones, so I've found anyway. But this is no bad thing, I love english nerds..which is just as well, as I am english myself!

This thread is great, everytime i check it it's making me laugh!

 

[drankin]

Boobies. Nerdy guys like boobies.